congradulations on your new arrival!
Ah, Momma, it can be really tough sometimes, my utmost empathy to you.
My LO woke up all night if I tried to dreamfeed her. I didn't try to keep her awake during the day because the one day I tried doing that she didn't sleep at night at all, but I did wake her every three hours to feed her, which was sometimes REALLY difficult.
If you're going to massage your LO's stomach make sure you do it counterclockwise (looking down on your LO) because thats the way our stomaches churn.
Did you already elevate on side of you LO's matress?
OK, this may sound stupid, but when you burp your LO do you gently rub or pat the upper left side of the back for a full five minutes? I actually found rubbing upward got more burps from my LO than patting sometimes.
I don't think it's ever OK to let a baby cry it out. That said, ther have been msny times when I have set my LO in her crib and said, "momma needs a break" stepped outside for a moment, took some REAL deep breaths, prayed, then came back to take care of my baby. I think: RULE #1 OF PARENTING - YOU CAN"T CALM A BABY IF YOUR NOT CALM YOURSELF. Which is sooooooo hard at times!
Does the swaddling help? My LO couldn't sleep without it for very long.
OK, I think I'm just repeating the same advice you've heard
Also, my utmost empathy becasue my man and I aren't always on the same page on what to do with our LO when she is being "difficult" and that can be really tough!