Yet again, I am in need of help.
After finally conquering naps, night wakings, and early wakings... my 12-mos-old is screaming at every bedtime. EVERY bedtime. Which these days is 10:30-11pm after multiple attempts. And wakes up in the middle of the night screaming as well -- he has NEVER done that!
Important details:
1. He was sick for 2 weeks with successive viruses, feeling better as of a couple of days ago.
2. We left him to cry in his crib several times this past week, going in and reassuring him, or sitting next to him. I believe this has made it worse (at his naptime a few times he would just talk and play and go to sleep...I stupidly thought maybe he would do that...) Instead, he screams until snot runs down his poor little nose.
2. He is not near to walking, so that's not it -- he has gross motor delays as he has spina bifida and hypotonia, so walking won't be for several months yet. However...
3. He just recently learned (a month or so ago) to sit himself up on his own from lying down. And now does so in bed.
Previously, I would snuggle him on his side, like a bug in a rug, and he would fall asleep pretty easily. Now, putting him on his side results in an immediate sit up. Or rolling to his belly. (Same if I put him on his back, which he doesn't like -- side, sit/belly.) He now sleeps on his belly for the first time, but he does not yet roll from belly to back.
Right now, at 1:30am, he's screaming in my husband's arms on and off, and has been awake an hour. I've already given him a small bottle and thought I had him resettled once. No go.
So. Could it be night terrors?? Seperation anxiety?? Either/both made worse by crying in his crib?
Is it just a phase he needs to work through until he gets comfortable with sleeping on his belly? Made worse by being sick?
All of the above?
I plan on playing in his room tomorrow a bunch, to try to help him make friends again w/his crib.
But beyond that, do I just get him out of his crib (AND his room -- he wails until you leave his room, and then still afterwards) day or night, to "undo" or alleviate the anxiety? Do I continue to console him/get him to sleep w/a bottle, since it's the ONLY thing that works? Good habits be dam*ed?
And worry later about reestablishing good habits once the screaming episodes stop?
I am losing it. I can't stand being screamed at for hours at a time every day. And I am out of ideas.
Any and all help would be appreciated.
thank you,
Ann