We just had DS tested today for the severity of his peanut allergy. The doctor called it a Rast Test. The scale is out of 100. She said anything above 12 means the person's allergy is potentially fatal. So now we wait about a week to find out what number DS is. DS had the same reaction as your son, swelling of face, hives, itching. I'm actually a little frustrated with DH about this one. DH is a very smart person and is used to analyzing anything and everything he hears and deciding for himself what is truth. He doesn't believe something just because someone says it is so.And usually I respect him highly for this trait. But in this case, he is questioning how far we need to take our precautions for the peanut allergy. he says, "Everybody who is a specialist thinks their area of expertise is the most important." When it comes to whole nuts, obviously he won't give them. But as far as not giving DS certain kinds of baked goods or candy because they were manufactured on the same equipment as a peanut product.....he thinks that is taking it too far.
Sorry to hijack your post.... I guess my point is you are certainly not alone, and I feel your frustration with someone that you love all of a sudden not giving this the credit and energy you know it deserves. I am right there with you!!