Hi,
I spent last week at my Mums and I found out something interesting about my own childhood. We were watching the House of Tiny Tearaways and I was mortified to see a father trying to force toast into his little boys mouth. I said to my Mum, "I can't understand how people can do that, I am terrified of people trying to feed me. I find it a real invasion of personal space and it makes me feel really panicky sometimes, especially when I ask them to stop and they won't (i.e. dh)".
Mum said "Really, that doesn't surprise me. The only time I really really lost my temper with you when you were a toddler was over feeding" She didn't tell me what happened but whatever did happen stuck in her mind in quite a lot of detail.
As a result of my 'fear' of being fed I have been really careful with dd. If she doesn't want it, she doesn't have it. I work on the basis, if she is hungry she will eat, eventually. Interesting how things happening to you in childhood do have an effect on you in the long term.
Claire