Hello,
A little background first. Our DS has always been really easy to put down for naps and at bed time. He has always been a night waker, which we need to solve. Our plan was to address the night waking after returning from vaca.
Two weeks ago we went on vaca and sent DS to spend a week with the GP's and now it is IMPOSSIBLE to get him to go down without at least an hour of crying. We're trying the "sleep lady shuffle" with him and he eventually does fall asleep, but not until he has more or less cried himself into exhaustion. We started this last Saturday and it hasn't improved (other than last night when he was worn out from a long day.) He is also waking in the middle of the night and staying awake for HOURS at a time! Here is a rough breakdown of what has happened since we started trying the SLS.
Saturday (Dad):
8:00pm - bed time, crying/fussing until 9 then asleep
12:00am - Up crying/screaming/fussing until 3am!!!
Sunday (Dad):
7:30pm - bed time, crying/fussing until 8:15, then asleep
2:30am - Up crying/screaming/fussing until 4am!!!
Monday (Mom): - This was a really long day for DS after little sleep and lots of running
7:30pm - bed time, minor fussing until 8:50 then asleep
10:30pm - awake, trying to uncover self, right back to sleep
2:30am - awake, fussing/chatting until 2:45 (no assistance!!!!), asleep (This, my friends, has not happened in MONTHS!)
Tuesday (Mom):
7:30pm - bed time, crying/fussing until 8:30 (still going)!!
Here is what we're doing. Dad sat on the bed with his head in his hands and tried to ignore DS, only talking to him and putting him back down when necessary. DS was constantly crying out for "Mom Mom", but Dad and Mom didn't give in. After an hour, DS fell asleep. Same thing happened early in the morning, but he was much more persistent than at bed time. Eventually he gave in. Dad noticed that if he talked to or touched DS, it would upset him more. So the second night, Dad REALLY limited the contact with DS. DS would eventually try to snuggle up to Dad, but Dad would push DS away, which didn't go over well.
Mom used a similar technique, however, she sat on a pillow on the floor (DS bed is on the floor) at the end of the bed. Mom can get away with more talking/touching without upsetting DS very much. Tonight is a little different. Mom is still in there trying to get him down as I type this, and it is now 8:50.
DS has always been a night waker (multiple times every night) and has a dairy intolerance and acid reflux. We finally put the two together and have that pretty much under control. Now he is mostly suffering from gas pains at night (should this still be happening at 21 months!?) which we usually solve by gas drops.
I guess we're just looking for someone to bounce this off of to see if we are doing it right and if this is the norm? It is almost as if we are doing CIO without leaving him alone. It is really rough to sit there and listen to his pleading, however, we don't want to give in as he REALLY needs to learn how to go to sleep without us touching him or being in the room with him.