maybe crush them a bit before you feed them? i was going to say puree them but if she doesn't like purees..... though i suppose you could puree them to mix in with everything else you are giving.
adults don't digest the outsides of some legumes very well either (sweetcorn for example) or many seeds, which is the whole point of seeds biologically, that the fruit gets eaten and digested, the seeds don't but pass through to be deposited somewhere and grow. so maybe flax seeds aren't easily digested by adults either?