Hi, my name is Janeen and my baby is Carson. He will be four months in four days. Over the last two weeks he has taken to waking up in the middle of the night and staying awake. At first it was to practice his new sounds and to play. We DID not play with him. We kept it dark and did not encourage it but it still continues. This doesn't happen every night but most nights. I am so sleep deprived. We tried CIO but that was not for us. I bought the baby whisperer book and have implemented the PU/PD, shush, and pat. We have been at this for four days. He now is able to fall asleep in his crib with me there and is comfortable. The screaming has lessened when I do this method because he now understands it. It really works. However, it does not put him to sleep in that 12/1 to 3/4am window frame. He is a good napper and always has been. I am working on getting him into a daytime schedule. He is pretty much following the book recommendations on his own with some guidance from me. He goes to bed at 8pm (asleep at that time) without a hitch. Again, it is just later in the night that he wakes up. I do the dreamfeed at 11. Well, now he wakes up for his dreamfeed!!! I don't know what to do about that either. After the feed most of the time he will go to sleep for a bit and then wake up at his habit time of 1am. It takes him forever to go back to sleep with the shush and patting.
What could be causing this middle of the night waking? He no longer tries to engage so much during this time or talk. He seems like he tries to go back to sleep but can't. Sometimes he will fall asleep five minutes and then jerk awake.
Here is the answers to the questions posted:
What’s his/her daily routine? Wake up around 7/8am, play, nap within an hour to two, sleep for 45 minutes or hour and a half (lately it has been hour and a half), wake up, play, eat, and back to sleep again after about three hours of wake time, and this repeats itself until 7pm. At 7 we have family time and play until 730. He nurses, has bath, nurses again, and is out until 12 or 1am (now he has taken to waking up for dreamfeed that I started on Monday night at 11pm).
What’s nap routine? Nap now consists of taking him to his room, making it darker, telling him it is night night, reading a book, sitting quietly for a bit, swaddling, give him his binky, and pat to sleep. He does well with this.
How long are naps? naps are now 1-2 hours. Yesterday it was three hours but today I made sure they were no longer then two.
What's bedtime routine? Time? see above
Do you bottle or breastfed?? breastfeed
How much? or how long? At least five to six times a day
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed) sometimes it is one and sometimes two.
How many wakes per night? wakes at 1am, 430, and 7/8. Sometimes he falls asleep after the 1am feed and sometimes not. I am trying to eliminate that feed by dreamfeeding so now he wakes himself up at 11pm for the feed. Ughh
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? He is silent for a bit, then fusses, and after ten minutes will cry.
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? fussing and sometimes crying if I don't wake up fully at first.
What have you tried to settle?? we tried rocking, walking, CIO. We now only do the shush and pat. I don't do pu/pd as much cause he gets really angry and settles better with just patting and binky.
What do you do for A time and how long is it? I think this is alone time? I have it from 8-12 every night. I talk to my DH, get on the internet, read, clean up, watch tv, etc.
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? He has learned to make different sounds, laugh out loud, and grab toys
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months) NO
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? eliminated them, he does have a binky
Do they have a lovie? yes, but does not sleep with it.
After doing this I see he has had loads of changes within the last week. He was moved to his own room and we are doing the sleep training. However, this night waking has continued for the last two weeks and has not gotten better?
Thanks