hello
My Lo is almost 8months old , I wanted to ask about your experience of co-sleeping and how this might effect separation anxiety. we have been on easy since he was 5 months ish. For first couple of months I used to sleep in a room with him (as husband had to drive longdistance at 5.oo in morning) and co-sleep some of the time - I reduced this but probably overreacted to his night wakings - not realising he was sometimes resettling self. Over last few months I have been doing PUPD for naps and tried it at night. I felt a bit demoralised as DH feels it isnt working because LO was waking up so much at night (teething/wants cuddles/wind etc/hungry - reduced milk too quickly) and we haven't been able to co-ordinate what we do - ie he insists on putting him on his knee or walking around with him when he helps out at night (he works away alot). ANyway recently as I can't survive on little sleep because at work 3 days a week, I try and resettle him but if he wakes say 3.00ish in morning I take him into the spare bed in his room and he then sleeps really well. we had got to the stage where I could go in and comfort him with hand or voice and he'd go back quickly. Now he needs pickup cuddle, dummy then back - by 3.00am wake I havent got energy tosit near cot and make sure he settles, so we cuddle up in bed .
ALSO recently stopped breastfeeding after reducing over 3 months
ANYWAY - I feel he is quite clingy although he loves meetingother children and adults (one-to-one) he finds it difficult to sleep at daycare so I have taken him to a childminder who is going to look after him at her home with 2 other children and hope this will be better for him - but still big change. He cries a lot when I leave the room at daycare and at home. WHAT do you think the effect of co-sleeping will be on him if he has got separation anxiety at the moment - I feel he needs a lot of love and security when I'm with him - but that I also need to let others hold him/play with him etc at any opportunity so he knows he is safe with others and encourage his independence.
I'l post routine but dont read if you dont need it!
Chlidminder is trying to keep roughly the same - but often takes them out in pm to park etc. Nursery/daycare have routine which is not specific for my lo -
Wake anytime between 3.00-5.30am (then co-sleep)
EAT Wake 6.30-7.00 Bottle
Activities - dress/walk dog/play with mummy
E 8.15-8.45 Breakfast cereal fruit (8.45 at nursery/daycare)
SLEEP 9.15-9.45 NAP (needs resettling after 30mins most time) 30mins-1hr 30mins
EAT 11.00 Bottle 6oz (sometimes wants sometimes not)
play
EAT 12.00 Lunch purees/fruit/cereal water/juice
SLEEP 12.45-1.30
45mins-2hrs(occasionally) depending on when woke from first nap naps for up to 2 hrs if resttled once and or in car/pram
Play
EAT 3.00pm Milk , rice cake - finger food
play
sometimes catnap between 4-5 in pram
5.30-6.00 dinner veg/cereal
winddown play, bath, bottle , stories, cuddle/song, bed by 7.30-8.00
He was waking very regularly (often in first 2 hours so must be over tired?) then 2-3 times a night If i leave him in cot in ealry hours he wkakes and cries a lot....
thank you so much - just wondered if others have any experience of this
C
