Hello,
Yes, I'm back again. I'm not sure if Sleeping for Toddlers is necessarily the place for this post, but the behavior mostly affects sleep. I have a 22 month old son who has slept poorly his whole short life: the first year, due to acid reflux, and the second because of accidental parenting and gas problems combined.
After using gradual withdraw, and then wo/wi, we were really making progress on sleep. However, the last week or so, I really began seeing the temper tantrums flaring up during the day as well as at night. He's become ultra clingy to me (mom), and doesn't want much to do with dad (some days are worse than others). I'm a SAHM, so he's always favored me, but it's turning to the extreme.
As is suggested by Tracy & the boards, my husband and I take 2 nights on/2 nights off with bedtime & night wakings. When it is my husband's night, Eric has really intensified the tantrums he throws at bedtime and during nightly wakings. It seems that it is because it is DH, and not me, although he has done it to me at times, too.
To help with the issue, I have private snuggle time with him for a few minutes when it's DH night, and DH has private snuggle time with him on my nights. It seemed to help for a bit, but lately it's been worse again.
I don't know if he's starting to have night terrors and/or nightmares; maybe he's getting 2nd year molars; maybe it's some sort of separation anxiety... just not sure.
Has anyone had this issue? If so, how do you tackle it? Should I just do bedtime for a while, or should we stick with what we are doing? It's really hard to listen to him scream at the top of his lungs.
Also, any suggestions to get dad back into favor? ... Please - I'm in need of more me time!
thanks!
Deb