I'm pretty sure my 3 mo daughter just can't resettle herself. I've been working with the shh-pat, swaddle one arm out... and I'm losing my confidence. I'm doing this alone, have a husband but he's not on board with all of this.
Am I right?
Do I keep on with the shh-pat,
move to PU/PD
or do I just give up entirely like I feel like right now. I'm not sure I have what it takes to stick with BW tactics
I've been awake for over an hour. My daughter only needed me for about 20 min. I'm just so paniced I can't sleep. I lost a good thing and feel like a failure.
My daughter has been a good night sleeper for a long time. For a while she was making it until 4:00 am or 5:00am after finally falling asleep 9 or 10pm (yes, I know that's bad we were trying anything for hours -before going back to shh-pat) Naps were getting worse but night sleep was still good. She went 6 days in a row without a wake up. 10-11 hours of sleep! For 5 days or so now she's been waking up again. Different times 3:45, 3:00, 2:45 I assumed she was hungry at first because of the different times. But she's not nursing that long. I don't know what I'm doing wrong anymore, but it seems like all my efforts to fix things are failing and I should just give up.
I really don't want to let her cry it out and never have, but I feel like all the things I've been trying are just making her more and more dependent on me.
How old is your child? 3 mo and a few days
What’s his/her daily routine? What’s nap routine?
trying to follow 3.5 -4 hr EASY but started taking 45 min naps. Have been working to extend We end up with EASA EASA (Y time is missing because I have a 2 yr too)
How long are naps? sometimes 2 hrs, sometimes 45 min
What's bedtime routine? Time? bath 6:45, walk around house briefly as I get toddler involved in something, turn on music and white noise, swaddle, sit a moment, shh-pat on shoulder, move to shh-pat in bed usually not asleep until 7:30 because takes a while to shh-pat or the 2 yr interrupts
Do you bottle or breastfed?? breastfeed
How much? or how long? between 10-20 min
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed) both
How many wakes per night? had been 1 early between 4-5 for weeks, then none for 6 days!, now all over between 1 and 3:30
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? fussing gets progressively louder and more demanding
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? it may be mantra, I've been trying to wait until on the verge of crying
What have you tried to settle?? reswaddle, shh-pat over shoulder
What do you do for A time and how long is it? sit upright in carseat for 30 min (reflux) watch sister and me, talk to her, sing to her... then lay her down on tummy or back, then pick back up or put back in seat if fussy with being on back/ tummy
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? for weeks now has been doing some rolling side to side
Have you introduced cereal? Why, how much, and how many times a day? (for LO’s under 6 months) no
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? paci has come and gone, but been gone for 3 weeks
Do they have a lovie? not yet, too young I think
encourage me please
I know that I have had it good and still do compared to some. I'm just frustrated because I feel like I've ruined a good thing and want to know how to get back on track