Hi- I really need advice. My 17 1/2 week old son is still not sleeping through the night and my husband and I are extremely sleep deprived. I have to return to work next week and am desperate to get him sleeping longer. Here's some info. about him and our routine:
-Gavin is on a 4 hour EASY that we moved to at 15 weeks because he was eating very little at each of his feeds. It only took us 2 days to transition because I think he was really ready for the longer activity periods. He is now on formula 100% and is eating anywhere from 28 - 30 ounces/day including the feeds from 7 am to 11 pm. He usually eats another 4 oz. somewhere between 3:30 am and 5:30 am. His schedule is:
7:00 EAT
7:30 ACTIVITY
9:00 - 11:00 SLEEP (most times he wakes at 30-45 min. but I'm able to put him back to sleep easily with pat/shh in the crib)
11:00 EAT
11:30 - 1:00 ACTIVITY
1:00 - 3:00 SLEEP
3:00 EAT
3:30 - 5:00 ACTIVITY
5:00 - 5:30 CATNAP
5:30 - 6:30 ACTIVITY
6:30 EAT
6:45 BATH
7:00 SWADDLE, get ready for bed, then FINISH BOTTLE, sit in rocker and pat/shh, give paci for a few minutes until sleepy then put into crib with paci and a few more min. of pat/shh
7:30 SLEEPING
11:00 DREAM FEED
-He is generally a "textbook" baby and by 8 weeks was going 5 or 6 hours between feeds at night
-In weeks 9-12, he almost stopped eating and started sleeping horribly and finally figured out he had reflux. His reflux now seems to be under control after taking Zantac then moving to Prilosec
-He's a great baby in the daytime, although he does wake up 30-45 min. into his naps
-He just doesn't seem to have enough to tide him over from 11 pm to 5, 6, or 7 am though. Here's what I've tried:
1. I try making sure he was eating more at every feeding in the day - doing my best to force him to take 7-7.5 ounces. Generally, I get about 1 oz. at 7 am, 7.5 at 11 am, 6 at 3 pm, 7.5 at 7 pm, 7.5 at 11 pm but I'm pushing the limit to get him to take that. He definitely won't take any more.
2. For the past 7 days, I also decided NOT to feed him if he woke up any time between 11 pm and 5 am since it seems like he should be able to go that long at his age and I know he has done it before at a much younger age. Every night he has woken up, generally around 3:00 to 3:45 and clearly wants to eat. Instead of feeding him, I've been giving him the paci and pat/shh in the chair first for about 5 min. until calm then in the crib. I've had to stay for a full hour every night before he's actually sleeping again. Then he only sleeps for about 20-30 min., waking up around 5:00 to 5:30 at which I do feed him about 4 oz.
3. Because for 7 days this method did not seem to work, I reread Tracy's book on the hunger variable and realized I was not doing a cluster feed like maybe I should. Last night I did a dream feed basically 2 x's - once at 9 pm and once at 11 pm - both times he ate very well and our "daytime" total for milk was 34 oz (the highest ever). However, he still woke up this morning at 3:45 am. It took me until 5 to get him to sleep. He woke up at 5:20 and ate 4 oz. The problem is for the past two nights, after I feed him at 5:00 or 5:30, I CANNOT get him back to sleep. He is wide awake ready to play.
So now I'm in a worse sleep position. I've stayed awake for 1.5 - 2 hours total in the middle of the night instead of the 45 min. total it may have taken me if he'd eaten only once at 3:30. Should I go back to just feeding him at 3:30? Is there something else I should try? Should I continue "cluster" dream feeding him at 9 pm and 11 pm? Any help is appreciated. I'm really really tired and will not be able to function at work next week if I don't get more sleep.