what about using lots of deep pressure? make a Josie sandwich using couch cushions (bread, a few blankets or smaller cushions can be pickles or whatever she likes and then a cushion on top for more bread) and gently apply pressure through. make certain her head stays out one side! its pretty hard to resist this for many kids and its very relaxing usually. you can get the same effect by having her lie in bed and tucking her in tightly and even adding cushions, books etc to add extra weight.
We've done this - it actually winds her up so much that we had to stop doing it past about 3PM or it kept her up half the night!!! She loves it and asks for more, don't get me wrong, but for her it's the sensory equivalent of a roller-coaster, lots of crazy fun she wants to do again and again!
We got the idea from
The Out-Of-Sync Child Has Fun by Carol Stock Kranowitz, BTW, and we haven't QUITE found any others in there that work for this particular thing. Good activities for other stuff, though.
I personally find it very hard to relax but one good piece of advice I received from my osteopath is to make sure that your back teeth do not touch when your mouth is closed. Just to explain - pretend to look like an idiot with your jaw dropped and maybe even mouth open. OK, it doesn't have to be that eveident and you can in fact keep you mouth closed, but that is the idea. If your jaw is tense, you'll tend to have a headache, backache and a general sense of muscle-tension in your body. Would you be able to teach Josie to look like that?
I've tried doing something like that, but this is a girl who, when asked to smile, sticks her lower jaw out to show her teeth so all the photos we have of her either have this ridiculous tense grin or no smile at all. In other words, if we ask her to imitate us, she actually CREATES tension to do it! We're still trying, don't get me wrong - just haven't succeeded yet.
Would she enjoy (tolerate?) some yoga for kids DVDs? I don't know any to recommend, but I have seen some at some book stores that might be good. Even if you just have her do a tiny bit of the DVD, not the whole thing, it might be beneficial.
Hmm, that might be good; haven't tried that yet! Maybe the body awareness could transfer to relaxation of one part at a time..... must investigate that!
Thanks ladies!