Hi guys
Thanks for replying to my post and thanks for the hugs. Sorry it has taken so long to let you know how we are going.
We started the easy routine Tuesday and I just want to make sure I am doing the right things (even after reading the FAQs)
The routine it as follows.
6am Eat
630 Activity
730 Wind down (nappy + nursery rhyme+ kisses then into cradle)
745 Sleep
900 Eat
930 Activity
1015 Wind down
1030 Sleep
1200 Eat
1230 Activity
115 Wind down
130 Sleep
300 Eat
330 Pram to get Daddy from work
430 Daddy Time
530 Activity (while mummy and daddy eat)
600 Bath + massage + story then into cradle
630 Sleep ( I wish)
am undecided abou the dream feed and need to read up on it.. Do you reccommed it?
I read Traceys interview and then a condensed version which advocvated pu/pd for 4mth old. So we have been doing the pu/pd. Corrina I know that you said I should not be doing pu/pd as it will overstimulate her but the interview said I could, do you think b/c she is a touchey baby that is why i should not be doing pu/pd. If i dont do pu/pd does that mean that I should be just putting her in her cradle and shh'patting and not picking her up??? She gets hysterical while in the cradle but at least after a while she does drop off after doing pu/pd.
Tuesday
The day started well with Eat then Activity and then I had her asleep within 15 min doing pu/pd and shh/pat (at this point I a thinking Easy Peasy) she slept for 45 min I tried to get her back to sleep but failed so did A until her next feed time. the rest of the day seemed to go the same way I could not extend her sleep longer than the original 45min this continued even throught out the night when I thought she would at least sleep through exhaustion. Not so!!
I decided to sleep on her floor at this point so I could at least grab 40 winks till she woke up again as i felt i was wasting sleeping opportunities for me going backward and forward to her room. Finally at 4am I got her back to sleep and she slept until 6.30am.
Wednesday
We began the same as yesterday only this time she has only slept in 20 min increments. when i tried to put her down 1 hour ago i stayed in her room for 20 minutes and at the 15 min mark i put my hand on her hoping this would help get her into the next sleep cycle I thought this had worked only she woke at 30 mins instead. I honestly had moments of " what the hell am i doing at least she slept before not well but atleast she slept" plus due to my exhaustion tring to sleep when she slept is impossible. I did not cave and will not because making her cry for 2 days only to rely on old habits is cruel.
I guess we will have to see how tonight goes. she really should be beyond exhaustion now but cant seem to sleep. \
How can i get her to sleep??? Ideas welcome.
Thusday
Last night she slept from 7.30 until 5.30 (theres the exhaustion) i gave her a feed but put her back down awake and then she went to sleep until 7.15. then i fed her at 9.30 and she went down for a sleep at 10.00 and slept until 12.00. I thought I had had a breakthrough becasue she went down so easy and this is the longest she has slept since she was a newborn. Then the arvo took a turn for the worse and she only napped for 20 min increments and woke screaming. again she went down at 7.30pm
Friday
she woke at 2.30am for a feed and then at 6.00 and today it feels like i am back at square one with the screaming i just do not think she is getting it or i must be doing it wrong! today i managed to get one 1 hour sleep this morning but when i take her in for her wind down as soon as i close the curtians she starts screaming b/c she knows what is coming.
Do you think i am missing her cues?? I am trying really hard to get them right and dont know what else to do.
When she is crying her most agonising cry is when i am at my worst as i feel soooo guilty
that thru my mistakes I am making her pay. I just keep telling her that i know it is hard but I promise it will get better.
Can you see if I am doing all the right things or if I am not what should I be doing??? I am trying to stay positive but i thought I would see improvements by now, do you think that because she is a Touchey baby that is why it is taking bit longer??
I am also using music for dreaming because I need something to block out House Noise as we live with my brother and his wife until we find our own house.
How long should I sh/patting her for?? How long does it generally take for a 4 mth old to get into a deep sleep?? Any other advice??
tomorrow daddy starts his new job and it is within walking distance so we will be picking him up and walking home together.
Also we have just moved her into her own room do you think this has had an impact and if so should we move her back until we get things on track??
Thanks heaps guys
Albertsweetpea
I will pm you when i get another free moment. Thanks for the support