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Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« on: July 18, 2006, 21:24:17 pm »
I feel whiny enough to post this on the couch, but I know it belongs here.

DS is 10.5 months old and I'm having a horrible time making the transition to table foods.  I don't know what to feed him, how much, and stress that he is not getting enough.  He will pick up finger foods (i.e., Cheerios, Gerber snacks, cheese, etc.) but his main meals still come from the jar.  I tried little bits of chicken, carrots, peas, all mushed up nice and small but he just looked at me like "what are you doing to me?" and I thought I was going to loose it.  He freaks out when I try to give him the sippy cup (however, just read the post with the suggestion to use a sippy with straw so I'll give that a shot) and doesn't seem to like any beverage but his formula (aren't babies supposed to like apple juice?)  My ped asked if he was on table foods at his 9 month visit and I said no and he said now is when he should be starting (along with my mom, which doesn't help much ::)).  DH said I'm so frustrated because ds is such an angel/textbook baby and this is the first thing that hasn't gone right.  I just don't know what to do.  Do I just give him table foods and if he doesn't eat them let him go hungry so he'll eat more at the next meal?  I feel like I'm going to have a 2 year old on the bottle and eating pureed chicken for the rest of his life!  Can any of you tell me what you did?  For some reason this is really upsetting me :-[
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #1 on: July 18, 2006, 21:34:54 pm »
I don't have any advice for you (sorry!), but I will tell you that you're not alone!  You may have read my post earlier today on a different topic (one year old struggling with finger foods).  My ds hates anything but cheerios.  Although he gulps down formula.

Just thought I would let you know.  I am also feeling like a failure and I also know what it's like to have the "grandparents" on your case. 
We are going on a family vacation with them in a few weeks and my mother in law said "I'll have him eating finger foods by the time vacation is over"  I could have strangled her  ;)

Keep your spirits up.  I'll let you know if I discover anything that helps on my end!

Take care,
Maggie
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #2 on: July 18, 2006, 21:41:47 pm »
Firstly isn't your ds a gorgeous boy!  :)

My ds took a long time to transition to table foods - he was over a year old.

It is so hard not to stress over it isn't it? My ds would only drink milk or water (in fact he's now over 3 and won't drink anything else). My ds kind of skipped the mashed up phase and went on to large hand held bits of food that he could chew on. Have you let your ds play with his sippy cup?

I guess you need to make meal times fun and interesting, that what we did. Eat your meals with him etc.

Big (((hugs))) (to you as well Maggie  :))
Sorry that it is upsetting you

Kat x  :)
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #3 on: July 19, 2006, 13:54:59 pm »
I guess I don't understand why the dr is in such a rush to get him on "table foods?" I mean, he's eating finger foods, doing fine with purees, so I don't see why the push for table foods. We'd always offer Tyler bites of what we were eating but he had his own little meal of finger foods and/or purees for a looooong time...I'm talking until close to 2 yrs old. That's when I got sick of being a short order cook and I knew he was old enough to understand that what I offered was what he could eat. And Tyler had stage 2 veggies until he was 18 mo old. He loved them mixed into his infant cereal for breakfast (ugh!) and I always thought, hey, at least I know he's getting veggies one way or another. Babies have their own preferences, and giving you a time table only makes you feel pressured if your little guy isn't on the same page. There's no reason why you can't keep up with what you've been doing!

As for the sippy, Kat had a good suggestion...letting him play with it helps him learn what it's supposed to do. But honestly, lots of babies hardly drink from it until the bottle is totally gone and that's all they have. I was convinced that Tyler would wither away from dehydration when we dropped bottles, but that's when he figured it out and started drinking decent amounts from the sippy. So you've got lots of time...you've got a healthy, gorgeous little guy, and it sounds like he's doing just fine!
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #4 on: July 19, 2006, 16:12:46 pm »
I just love you all so much!  I can't tell you what this site has done for me.  Thank you all for your support and suggestions.  You're all right, at least he's eating!  I will keep encouraging him and working with him.  Sometimes I have to stop and tell myself, "He's only 10.5 months old for cryin' out loud"!!!  I feel better now!

Good luck Maggie!  If you need a "kid won't eat" buddy, I'm here for you.  Enjoy your trip (in-laws,  ::))

Kathy-Ann
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #5 on: July 20, 2006, 13:32:04 pm »
I just caught this thread, and it answered a bunch of questions. We are also struggling with DS not wanting table food or milk. So far, we've had success with Cheerios, bits of bread, and Spaghettios. I tried offering cubed cooked carrots, peas, cheese with absolutely no luck. I know that I shouldn't stress over this, but it's a bit hard. Plus, we'll have our 1 year well appointment on the 25th and I already have visions of the pediatrician calling me to task for not giving him more table foods (not that she is like that, but I am feeling pretty incompetent right now about feeding solids). DS has no problems eating purees or oatmeal (in fact, I've been mixing his oatmeal with whole milk and seems to be ok with it), but when it comes to more chunky stuff, forget it.
    I guess, I don't know how to offer him more chunky stuff and when. If I offer him chunky stuff at the beginning of a meal, he'll take one bite and refuse the rest, but then I have the hardest time convincing him to eat anything else, including purees. It's like he says "Mom, you fooled me once, you are not going to do it again". But if I wait until after his meal, won't he be too full to be interested in trying anything??

Thanks for your help.
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #6 on: July 20, 2006, 13:53:22 pm »
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But if I wait until after his meal, won't he be too full to be interested in trying anything??

The other way of looking at it is if he has had his meal (perhaps before his pudding) and is contented, he wont be stressed. If he is starving he won't want to mess about with new foods. Give him some new foods and let him play with it. Eat some yourself so he can see that it is nice to eat.
Have you tried larger pieces of food like the end of a banana that he can chew pieces off, rather than bite size pieces.

He sounds like he is doing ok after all he is eating some 'lumpy' food, it's just a case of extending that range now.

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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #7 on: July 20, 2006, 13:56:29 pm »
Thanks! I'll try reversing the order, and offering the chunky foods after his meal. We'll see how it goes.
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #8 on: July 21, 2006, 13:35:42 pm »
Just found this thread.  Kathy-Ann, it looks like my ds is about a week older than yours, so we're experiencing a lot of the same things!  DS was on two Stage 2 jars for dinner for the longest time.  Then he became impatient that he wanted to do it himself, but couldn't actually get enough in his mouth to be a whole meal & he'd wake up hungry.   ::)  What has started working for us is to feed 4-6 oz of puree (usually one Stage 2 jar, sometimes most of a Stage 3 instead) & then let him have real solids like carrots, green beans, banana, etc.  That way he's not ravenous & has more patience in feeding himself, and I'm more confident he's getting enough to eat because of the purees.  :)  He seems to prefer the small bits of "real food" over the chunkier purees.  Maybe it's just an individual preference thing.
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #9 on: July 27, 2006, 12:27:56 pm »
HI

Just found this thread and I am experiencing something similar too..My daughter Lauren is 1 year, 1 week old and I only having her last bottle at night (no milk during day)...but that's not it...
She refuses new foods, and all veg at the moment..she used to eat spaghetti and veg purees, with or without meat..and has changed al of a sudden...
If I offer fruit or yoghourt, she'll eat is, but no veg...
It's really frustrating and hard, as I want to let her wait till the next meal, if she doesn't eat....and I feel bad sometimes if she weems hungry...

Kx
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Re: Feeling like a failure, DS won't eat table foods
« Reply #10 on: July 27, 2006, 22:07:18 pm »
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If I offer fruit or yoghourt, she'll eat is, but no veg...

Have you offered your DD the sweeter veg such as carrots / sweet potato. Have you tried mixing in small amounts of veg in with her favourite fruit. The aim being that gradually over time you change over the fruit / veg ratio. For example start 90% of banana mixed with 10% of sweet potato and gradually alter the ratios so that you end up with just veg.

Are you concerned that she isn't get any veg or that she doesn't like veg?
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