I understand what you are saying however I do feel that this particular response did come across as judgemental. The original post read to me as if Dougal's LO was waking up and playing for 2 hours - nothing to do with solids - just wanting some advice on routine. I understand that the mods are volunteers however tact still needs to play a huge part as sometimes parents are at their witts end, feeling fragile and worried at every step of the way whether they are making the right decision - the last thing they need is to have that decision put to interrogation... The mods do a great job. No argument there. I just feel that on occasion, and I am not finger pointing at all, that there is an attitude particularly around weaning that makes me and others I have spoken to that use the site feel afraid to tell the whole story in case we get told off. This has been a feeling I have had for while reading previous posts not just this one.
I pick and choose bits out of BW as I feel are appropriate - it is not my bible admittedly - sometimes I just want to chat to other people about their experiences and get their take on things in a supportive forum, which I think the BW site usually is.
I don't think it's disrespectful to criticise the advice of someone just because they are no longer with us. Ideas and methods need to be challenged and discussed and criticised in order to improve and develop theories. Evolution is a natural part of existence. I am sure TH would agree that you do what feels right and works for you and your baby and not everything is black and white - which is why this forum is so widely used. Not everyone on this website follows the BW to a T - some people make it up as they go along, try different things that work and then share them. I fully agree that this is the place to come as discuss the BW methods but surely if you don't agree with some of those methods then this is also the place to raise concerns and enter into a discussion about them, where else is there to go? I would have though you might welcome criticism which gives you a chance to address it rather than people bottling it up.
Many countries recommend weaning from as early as 2 months, until recently the UK recommended 4 months - the jury is still out at the moment in the UK but 6 months is used as a guide. A lot of paeds still recommend 4 months. There is always a reason why a mum or dad chooses to parent in a particular way - I just think that sometimes this is overlooked and called into question when it should be accepted and worked round.
My intention was not to have a go at any one in particular and reading back I could have phrased things better so apologies for that. I have and will continue to use the forum as one of my many useful sources of information.
