My DD just started at 3mos to take only 45 minute naps, and it has been a struggle. She really, really needs good naps during the day or we have an awful evening (fussing from 7pm to 10pm) and a rough night (waking every few hours, needing soothing). She can be very spirited and is easily overstimulated during the day, so we've had to really focus on keeping it calm. This often means me staying home more, but to me it is worth it to have a calm day at home than a stressful day out and about. Not everything works all the time, but this is what's helping so far:
- Going in when she first wakes at 45 minutes, and either doing shush-pat or just resting my hands on her (one on chest, one on legs) and not giving eye contact or engaging/talking activities, just being there. It often may take 20-30 minutes for her to fall back asleep, but when she does, she'll sleep another hour or so. I know Tracy often advises not to rush in immediately, but I've found if I go in right away, she's still groggy and slips back asleep more easily. If I wait to see if she'll settle herself (she won't), she'll get worked up and upset and awake and is much harder to put her back down down.
- Trying the wake-to-sleep method. It doesn't always work for her, because it's hard to guage when her sleep cycles are (she self-soothes the first time around, so it's hard to know exactly when she falls asleep). She'll wake anywhere from 45 mins to an hour. But sometimes it works, and of course when it does, it's worth it!!
- When all else fails, I'll hold her and rock her to sleep. I know this is accidental parenting, but I also know her nap issues are temporary and I do all the other "right" methods first, so I don't see it as becoming a habit - I just see it as me helping her get the sleep she desperately needs!
- I plan to use the weekends when my DH is home to help ME get some rest and relaxation - trying to get a baby back to sleep 3-4 times a day is stressful, taxing, and exhausting. Not to mention I had to give up MY naps! LOL!
Good luck! And keep searching these forums - there's lots of great stuff out there!