Hi,
I am posting here also on behalf of my wife who is trying to snatch a couple of hours sleep. Our little girl (Allie) is now 8.5 months old, she was very unsettled indeed up until about 6 months of age when she was diagnosed with multiple allergies (milk, eggs, soya, nuts). Since the diagnosis, we have removed these items from her diet and generally she is a much happier and livelier baby. The one area which has not improved (and some nights we believe is getting worse), is her sleeping pattern. She has always been a reluctant sleeper but the problem is becoming worse as she is getting more aware of her surroundings.
Her routine is as follows:
5pm bathtime
5.30 pm Dinner time and BF
7 pm Bedtime
11pm BF
2am BF
6am Awake for the day
8am Breakfast and BF
10.30 am naptime (1/2 hour)
12 noon lunch and BF
2pm Naptime (1/2 hour)
Basically, we are not really in a position to properly wean Allie at the moment due to the milk allergy, her food is being supplemented with Calcium and other vitamins to compensate.
Activity times are usually two short spells in the morning, between 2.30 and 5pm and then a short time before bedtime.
Allie is now very energetic and keeping her calm and quiet before bedtime is proving impossible. She wants to roll around and play, even reading a book with her gets her excited. We wonder whether she is catching up on lost time.
Allie is also very, very attached to my wife, perhaps because of feeling unwell because of the allergies and comfort coming through BF and cuddling. Any time I try and settle Allie she is looking over my shoulder towards the door of her room, looking for her Mum. Most times I am unable to settle her. We have been working hard trying to slowly introduce different people and places into her routine and she will now go with her Grandma for about 1/2 hour even if my wife is not visible. With anyone else, she will probably go with them for a maximum of 10 minutes but only then if my wife is in visual range. Allie will also stay with me for 1/2 hour if my wife nips to the shops.
The problem:
Basically, as soon as my wife brings Allie upstairs at night and puts her into her Gro-bag, she begins to cry persistently. Often, the only way to stop this is by BF. Allie will then wake again about 30 minutes after she first slept, sometimes I can get her back to sleep, other times it has to be my wife. After that, the best we have ever had is 3 more wakings during the night, often it is as many as ten.
Suffice to say we are both very tired and exasperated by the situation.
We have tried to get Allie to sleep a bit longer during the day but with very mixed success. Allie will sleep for longer than 1/2 on occasion but not at all regularly.
It has been suggested to us that because Allie's nighttimes were so interrupted before the allergies were diagnosed, that she has become used to this broken pattern and it will now be tremendously difficult to fix. Clearly this isn't exactly music to our ears !
This evening for example, Allie was full of beans this evening, she had her last BF just before 7pm and my wife brought her upstairs to bed shortly afterwards. Allie unusually fell asleep quickly but then woke half an hour later and started crying. I came up to see to her but after half an hour she was still crying. My wife then came up to try and settle her, Allie was then sick everywhere. My wife changed her bedding and then BF her, Allie fell asleep during BF and my wife put her into her cot. She has just woken up again (9.50pm) but I have managed to calm her back to sleep by patting her back and talking softly.
Appreciate I have written a whole load above. we are at the point of trying to seek some professional help as no matter what we do, the situation does not seem to improve.
We are in the UK, has anyone else had problems such as these, it would be great to hear any tips you have. Also, if anyone knows of a professional that can help, I would be eternally grateful for their contact details.
Many thanks in advance,
Terry, Sairah and Allie.