Hey there Mother of Sammie who loves all those things!
At 9.5 months I feel a bedtime of 730pm is fine. At 9.5 months also, they don't need as much sleep. How long are his 2 day naps on average? How long are the A times exactly? Perhaps he is getting too much day sleep, so he doesn't feel like he needs as much at night lol.
Do you think there is something developmental going on - perhaps he is about to stand, walk, balance your check book
Anything like this can cause wakings. Could he be teething?
Can you tell me about this paci - can he use it 100% of the time with no help from you? If he doesn't require help ever with the paci, finding it, putting it in etc - then is is a comfort item and ok. However if Sammie cries and needs you to come in and help him with it - it is a prop and PD doesn't work well (if at all) with a prop. PD is a tool used to teach self soothing and thereby indep sleep. He can't learn this lesson if a paci is soothing him - know what I mean?
Tell me about this 5am feed. Most likely he doesn't need this feed. Would you agree? Is he taking in a good amount of solids and milk during the day? If you don't believe he is truly hungry you can do the water down method - lemme find it!
https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=46907.0 - there ya go! OR you could just not give the feed and do PD.
You should do PD for all night wakings not related to pain or hunger. You know him best - though if daytime meals and feedings are firmly in place he shouldn't need a feed at night - though some do.
If he is having some SA - Wi/Wo may make this worse. You can try the gradual leaving thingy - hang tight lemme find it...
8 MONTHS TO A YEAR - At this age you really don’t do any pick up as babies 8 months and up tend to soothe faster in the crib.
· You wait for them to stand up or pull up and then you place them back down so they are looking away from you and not at your face.
· If you feel they are truly frantic and need more you can pick them up for a moment but you put them straight back down.
· At this age it’s important to use your voice even more. Your baby will start to recognize what you are saying, eg. “I’m not leaving you, you’re not alone, it’s nap time” etc.
· At this age you may need to pair pu/pd with gradual leaving of the room. First you stay in the room until asleep, then move a few feet from the crib, in a few days you move to the door, then out the door
.Yep there it is in BOLD! This may help more if SA is a problem. Also that is the adaptation for his age incase you hadn't seen it though I am sure you have! Also for the SA you can do alot of peak a boo - leave him in the crib and say Ill be right back m leave and go right back to show him that you will come back. With SA it can be tricky. You might find wi/wo works better, but you might also find it doesnt. I say use your gut, it every time you enter he calms down, and plays, and he is like this when you are in the room, you might want to use the walk in walk out BUT do not stay out for more then 3-5 seconds, he is a baby, not a toddler. If you do want to try wi/wo here is a great post:
https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=60390.30.
I HTH storm coming here!
ZOey