Not sleeping through the night

[Calums mum]

I need help. We went to Scotland for 3 weeks and the little guy slept like a charm. Now we' ve been home for 3 weeks, he has since had his first birthday and he is waking up altlest once if not not twice a night. Last night he was up at 10, 3 and 6. Help me!!!!!  he is also horrible to put down. We've gone from nicely going to sleep to not going to sleep unless he is rocked or cuddles with me in bed. These are not good habits. He will be completely asleep in my arms in the rocking chair then as soon as I put him in his bed he's wide-eyed and bushy tailed. Its an absolute nightmare. It can take over an hour to get the little man to sleep. By the time i get him down its time for me to go down. Bye bye evening.I winderi f he is still adjusting from our holiday and we were pretty busy when we got home planning for his birthday. I don't know. He's never been this bad. The other is we moved into a new house a few weeks before we went on holiday. I know it could be a combination of everything but I would have thought that by 3 weeks he would have been back to normal. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Also, does anyone know how to get on the chat room? I can't figure it out.

Joanna - Canada 

[Florencia]

Hi Joanna!

I think I'm gonna need further info in order to come up with a plan, cause yes, you're right, there were just so many changes and activities that it is very likely that lo is getting the grip of that and being restless because of that. But along that there can be a lot of development, teething, age-related issues that could be going on depending on how old is he and how his routine looks like, cause he might need a tweaking or even a total change in his daily routine that will fit with his new "life".

Meantime, try to take on some damage control measures in terms of going to sleep and dealing with night wakings. I recommend you to take a look at the FAQ's board at the top of this section in 2 threads, one called Teaching Independent Sleep and the other is called Most common Sleep busters. By looking at both of them you might have a clue on what's going on with your little one and choose a sleep training technique that suits your and his temper.

Keep us posted and good luck!

[Calums mum]

Thank you for your reply and I apologize for taking so long in getting back to you. I don't get much computer time. Most of my free-time is spent napping or scrambling to pick up the house. Anyways, my problem still exists. I have got him falling asleep in his crib but I have to stand there until he's asleep which can take awhile. I also am not giving him the bottle in the night anymore. I thought I would ease into things instead of going from one extreme to the other. I think part of the reason he was waking was that he was cold so I've started putting his blanket sleeper on him again. Does the pu/pd method apply for toddlers as well? I'm also wondering if I have to change his room around and try to put it as close to the way we had it in our other house as we can. The poor little guy has had so many changes in the past couple of months. We moved middle of June and then went to Scotland a few weeks later. When we came back it was very busy because I started to plan his b-day party and we were still trying to get organized from moving. However it has been quite a long time since we've been back and I would have thought he would be back to normal by now. The other thing I thought about was that he slept in the same room for us for 3 weeks when we were away. Is it possible he got used to having us there at night? AAHHHHHH! Something has to give because I'm going to go crazy. This is really all over the place so I hope you can understand it.

On another note, have you any idea how this new chat room format works. I cant figure it out. Ir maybe just nobody is ever on it when I can get on.
Joanna

[Colesmom]

Hi Joanna-I responded to you in the wi/wo support thread before I saw you posting here.

I suggest looking that this thread on teaching independant sleep : https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=63896.0

PU/PD applies to toddlers, but usually you only do the PD part since they can stand up at this age.

i don't think you need to change his room around, he will adapt to the new surroundings in time.  And yes, maybe he did get used to having you and DH in the room with him, but again, he'll get used to being alone.  The key is to be 100% consistent in your methods.  That's great that he's going down in his crib.  I would try moving a bit further from the crib every few nights while he's settling and eventually you'll be outside the room (gradual withdrawl explained in the thread above)

This is certainly a tough age for sleep (and we thought infant sleep was hard!).  Please post your routine, and it might give us a better idea of where to help you.

(((hugs))) to you. It will get better!  I'm in the middle of wi/wo right now after 4 months of holding my DS to sleep and taking him onto the couch at night.  We've made great progress, it can be done!