I actually posted a few times in the getting your 1 year old to soothe themself to sleep thread but realized that my sons issue is quite different. I will copy and paste my previous posts and then his schedule.
From yesterday-
"My 11 month old son has never been a good sleeper and out of desperation we started cosleeping again when he was about 6 months old. We actually all love cosleeping but we decided something had to give because waking up every 1-2 hours was destroying me and our relationship. So his crib is still sidecarred but we added the 4th wall back on and started PD about a week ago. It seems to have helped in that I can get him to go down by himself and he will actually sleep a 3-5 hour stretch in contrast to his usual wake up 45 minutes after going down. The problem is after that first stretch he is a nightmare. The last 2 nights(Thursday and Friday) have been awful. 2 nights ago he was asleep at 8 instead of his usual 6:30 - 7 (DH's idea...BAD) up at 9 and back down with one PD then up at 1:30, 2:30, 3, 3:45, 4:45 when I finally laid him in bed and fed him with him staying latched on for an hour as I dozed, then took him off at 5:45 and he tried to stay awake, back in crib and slept till 6:45. And of course none of those wakings are easy, he cries then sleeps for 5 minutes then gets up again and repeat. Then when I thought it couldn't get worse last night happened...He slept from 7-10:30 then 10:30-1:30 and then was up every 10 - 40 minutes from then until 6!! I was beginning to think his molar was finally coming through since I can feel it under the skin but I gave him tylenol and teething tablets and he still woke up every 40 minutes. Each waking then took 5-10 minutes of PD and crying. I just don't know what to do anymore and what I am doing wrong. I thought that after more than a week things would be getting better not worse!
He goes to bed early
He has had a routine since a few weeks old
I have night weaned him
He puts himself to bed with me in the room but not touching him
White noise, music all night long
He is on a 4 hour EASY
I don't believe in CIO for our family but it's getting to the point that I don't know what else to do. I know that even in my darkest hours I can't just let him cry alone without me at least shushing him and reassuring him. Tonight we move the crib off the bed so we will see how that goes. I thought doing it slowly like this would be easiest on him but now I'm not so sure. The only thing I am sure of is that I am totally at my wits end and completely exhausted and that something has to give!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated."
Last night started out PERFECTLY!! We moved his crib a few feet from our bed and he went down in a record 5 minutes and stayed asleep from 7:30 - 2 and then went back to sleep with one PD and slept until 3. This was the first time he has aver slept that long!! Then the craziness started all over again and he was up every 10-20 minutes from 3-4 at which point I made DH go to him since I thought maybe it was a milk thing since I just cut that last 3-4am feeding a few days ago. It must have worked because finally at 4:30 he went down and slept till 5:30 at which point he woke up again and after a half hour of trying to get him back down DH just took him downstairs to have breakfast and let me sleep since I of course had insomnia during his long stretch of sleep. It's as if he just can't get settled. I even tried nighttime oragel and teething tablets during that 3-4 stretch. I just feel so bad for my sleep deprived baby. I am a grown up and can deal with it, he needs that sleep.
Here is his info...
How old is your child?
11 monthsWhat’s his/her daily routine?
Ideally wake at 7
breakfast and nurse
play and/or go for walk
nap at 9
10-11 wake up and nurse
go out and/or play/lunch
1-2 go down for nap
3 wake and nurse
play
dinner
bedtime routine
6:30-7 bedtimeWhat’s nap routine?
change diaper, close shades, sing song and cuddle, turn on CD and put in crib -PD last anywhere from 5-45 minutesHow long are naps?
40minutes - 1hr. 50 minutes - He ALWAYS wakes up after 40-50 minutes and I can sometimes get him back down for another 40 minutes to an hour. Lately he has been going back down for the extended nap much better. Could be because he is so exhausted from the night wakings. He took a 1hr 50 min this morning and 1 hr this afternoon.What's bedtime routine?
Shower, massage/teeth and hair brushing/diaper and PJ's with daddy, Cuddle with mommy and nurse, sing our song, and in crib. Time?
6:30 - 7 but sometimes 7:30-8 if something comes up on weekends. I generally shoot for 4 hours after he wakes from his last napDo you bottle or breastfed??
breastfeedHow much? or how long?
4 times a day 5-20 minutesIf breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed)
one side but have been giving both before bed since I weaned him at nightHow many wakes per night?
about a million ..see above What’s your LO like when waking at night?
Stands up and cries How long is he/she up?
Sometimes less than a minute sometimes an hour or more. Mostly he goes back to sleep easily but only lasts sleeping 10-40 minutes but usually in the 10-20 minute range.When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying?
More of a fussing, whiney cry but can work himself up quickly Or is it a mantra cry?
hasn't had a mantra cry since he was a babyWhat have you tried to settle??
We have been doing PD for about a week and a half. I shhhh him and rub his head till he stops crying and then stand back. If he isn't crying I just PD and give him his blanket.What do you do for A time and how long is it?
We either play outside, or go to the park, or play in his play room. We run errends, etc... About 1-2 hours.
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones?
I am pretty sure his molars are coming in...I feel one under the gumDo they have a prop? If so what is it?
yes, binkyDo they have a lovie?
I give him a blankie every time I lay him down and he recently started sleeping with it but I wouldn't call it a true lovey as he could take it or leave it.