Entirely confused.....need help!!

[jenny30]

Hi there, my wee one is 14 wks old and is sleeping all thru the night. My problem is that
i have started a bad habit and can't seem to fix it. Kieran needs to feed (bf) to get
to sleep. I have tried the EASY method for a week now and he still won't settle himself
to sleep. I have tried to put him in tired (I know now the signs to look for!), nearly asleep from feeding, singing, patting, swaddling( which he hates) He cries and cries until I feed him and the frustrating thing is 2 minutes later he's asleep. Any advice??

[litomi]

If you start singing, patting, swaddling while he is nearly asleep from feeding, you are actually disrupting your LO from falling asleep. Imagine yourself being disturbed by phone call while you're almost asleep. You will have to calm yourself down again and take a while for you to fall asleep. With your LO, he is tired already, almost asleep, and then WOW all those stimulations! He is now overtired, and needs longer time to soothe and to fall asleep.

Try to gently remove him from feeding, hold him for a while and shs, put in a dummy for your LO to suck and lay him down in the bed. Keep everything subtle and calm. My LO doesn't like patting, too stimulating for her, so I just put my hand on her tummy to assure her I'm there and do Shs...

Just wondering, is your routine EASY? or is your routine AESY? Or, EAESY?

[jenny30]

First of all, I totally see ur point of patting etc would stimulate him. I don't try these when he's nearly asleep but when he is awake but tired or when he is crying - resisting sleep. And what pattern are we at the moment- EAEAESY!  The thing is as well, he had quite bad colic and it is only easing now so I never even gave a thought to self soothing himself to sleep and to be honest I didn't even realise I was doing something wrong until I read Tracy's book.