18 mo DS was sleeping independently through the night. Then DS2 arrived and things have gone steadily downhill. Last night #1 was playing/crying for 4 hours in the middle of the night. My mother has been doing bedtime and going to him while I am nursing the baby. She has had enough after last night and is leaving. I can't talk DH into doing wo/wi for more than 10 min, he has no patience and wants to cio. What do I do if #1 is crying and #2 needs to nurse??? I'm freaking out here. . . .