Oh RUSSYL, I'm so sorry to hear you are struggling today! I know how you feel!
I, too, am amazed at how parallel a lot of lives are on here, and we are across the globe! My DH opened his own business last year, and we were living on my salary while I was pregnant, so you can imagine his stress now that he is the sole provider. So I am the sole parent, it feels like. He can't be sleep deprived for his job, so I do all nights. We both are feeling like we need so much from the other, but we have so little to give, too.
And while we are sooo in love with our LO, we feel guilty at being so stressed at what is supposed to be the happiest time of our lives! I was talking to my best friend about this (who does not have children yet), and she said another friend of hers was going through the same thing. She said she thinks it's a shame that nobody really talks about how utterly hard it is, they only talk about how wonderful it is. It's like it's a social taboo to complain about how hard things are!
And can I just say...I have NO idea how you are doing it with two!!!!!!!!
Do you have the means for a babysitter? Maybe just having dinner out with your DH (even if it's fast food!) would help? I read Mimi's Mom's post on the May/June board and decided it was overdue time for us to get out and have a date.
We are having a pretty decent day, although I messed up her afternoon nap. I went to visit a friend that lives 30mins away that I haven't seen since dd was born. I had it all planned out: nurse, drive 30mins, visit 30mins, drive 30mins home, put her down for her nap. Well, of course we hadn't seen each other in so long it was hard to get out of there in 30mins! And then dd fell asleep on the car ride home, so her nap is all messed up. And tonight is church group and she gets SO overstimulated in that nursery! Luckily, she manages to fall asleep ok once we get her home, but I still feel guilty.
Did your day go better just starting it early? It's funny b/c the older B gets, the later she sleeps in - her days used to start at 6am, like clockwork, when she was first born. Then it was 7am, then 8am, now I often wake her at 8:30! Sorry, I'm not rubbing it in, just trying to tell you I know how it feels to start your day at 6! zzzzzzz...