I'm about at my wit's end, and hope someone can help me. In the past 2-3 weeks, I started sleep-training my 13 mo. old; meaning, I broke the habit of nursing him to sleep at bedtime and got him to sleep through the night by doing the method of gradually moving farther from his crib every 3 nights. Well, the results were great in that he now can fall asleep by himself, and sleeps through the night. BUT, he now wakes every morning between 4:30 and 5:00, and cannot or will not go back to sleep. Because of that early waking time, he needs a nap between 7:00-8:00am, and sleep about an hour and 15 min. The other resulting problem is that he has been refusing his afternoon nap! Here's an example of how our day has gone so far...
(went to bed at 6:00pm last night due to no nap)
woke up at 4:30am
stayed in crib till 5:15am, then got up and nursed
down for nap at 7:00am
woke up at 8:15am
breakfast at 8:30am (which is normally after first morning waking, around 6:00am but he didn't want it then) - cereal and cup of milk
lunch at 11:00am (solids)
.....and, he's been up every since! Actually, I take that back. It's 2:15pm and my husband just got him to sleep. So now we may go with his usual 7:00 pm bedtime.
I tried putting him down for a nap at 1pm, after quietly sitting in his darkened room and singing to him. I put him down drowsy but awake in his crib, and he immediately stands up and starts crying. I shhh and pat him and tell him it's nap time, lay down and go to sleep. I then assume my position on the floor next to his crib, lying down with my head on a pillow and my eyes closed. We stay like this for 45 min., and the entire time he talked to himself, sat in his crib and played, stood up from time to time and cried before getting back down to play; it was ridiculous! We did the same thing yesterday too, with no luck.
As for the early rising, it doesn't matter when he goes to bed. I've tried putting him down super-early (like when he doesn't nap well), keeping him consistently on the 7:00pm bedtime, or trying to gradually move his bedtime later. Nothing works, he wakes up between 4:30am and 5:00am no matter what. Even when I was in the habit of nursing him to sleep, that wouldn't even work to get him back to sleep. And I know he hasn't had enough sleep because he gets cranky about an hour later.
Should I try the Wake to Sleep technique? I've tried staying in the room with him without picking him up, just patting him and verbally reassuring him, but all he does is just lay there and talk to himself and toss and turn. I'm not sure about the WO/WI technique, because we're also dealing with pretty major separation anxiety right now.
Can anybody help?
Thanks,
Jennifer