Setteling down at night

[Hils]

I am new to this website and motherhood in general so I am not used to the terms that I have seen people using here, dd for example.  So here's my problem...  My daughter is just over 12 wks old, she was 17 days overdue!  I have been lucky in that almost since the start she has slept the night.  She was a very hungry baby and I had to supplement bottle from the start in the hospital as the breast was not enough for her.  She was 8 lbs when she was born and is now over 15lbs.  Anyway my problem is with night time.  Once she is asleep she will be gone for the night, but she seems now to put up a battle at night and won't settle easily.  I get her asleep with the ssh pat and she's gone in my arms, but as soon as I put her in the crib she wakes screaming.  I try to console her in the crib but she won't settle until she's back up in my arms.  This went on from 9pm last night till 1.30am when I eventually get her down.  This is only a new thing, but I would love to  be able to put her down while she was awake and let her settle herself - does anyone have any ideas, or come up with similar experiences?  Any help please as I really don't fancy having this every night.

[shelliz]

  Just wanted to give you the link for the acronyms. It will make your life alot easier on this site!

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=51772.0

  Shelby

[samijoe]

Hils-
Hi there and welcome to the site!

I am going to move this post on over to the EASY board...they will be able to help you better over there.

By the Way (BTW), they will want you to post your current routine or normal day.

Good luck,
Sami

[* Paula *]

Thanks for moving this Sami.

Hi Hils,

Welcome to the boards.

Please can you post your curent routine with E, A - how long and what it includes as well as windown routine and S - how she goes down for her naps.

Have you tried pat / shh?

Did she used to fall asleep independantly at night or has this always been the case?

Paula x

[*Mona*]

hi there.

first- I agree with everyone above- pleas post your routine.

second- if she falls asleep in your arms when you say you're using pat/shh and wakes up when put to bed, don't worry- it's normal behaviour. the thing is you should try to put her to sleep when she's already lying in her crib. once she falls asleep in your arms and you put her down, she wakes up because she can suddenly feel her weight and she doesn't feel you- your touch and your warmth anymore.

please, let us know how your days look and we'll try to help.

[Hils]

Hi there,

My daily routine isn't totally strict but it looks something like this:

Wake 7am
E - 7.10 am
A - 7.30 am
S - 8.30am
A - 9.20 am
E - 11 am
S - 11.30 am
A - 12pm
S - 13.50 pm
A - 14.30 pm
E - 15.00 pm
A - 15.30 pm
S - 16.30 pm
A - 17.00 pm
Bath 18.00pm
E - 19.00 pm
Bed - 20.00pm (sleeps through till next morning).

This is not set in stone, but would be the average day, some days she might sleep less, but would normally wake between 7/8 am, but could be as late as 9/10 at night before she settles.  Last night was great, she was asleep by 8pm till 7am this morning.  I will try setteling her in the crib and see how I go.

Thanks.

[* Paula *]

Hi,

I would think that your lo is extremely overtired, and this is why you are battling to settle her at nights and why it is taking so long for her to get to sleep.

Also, it might be easier for your lo to be on a 3 hour EASY routine so that she can handle the A time, go for a nap and then when she wakes will be ready for her next feed again.

Do you try to extend her naps at all?  From the looks of it she could be waking before settling herself into a deep sleep.  This link will provide a bit more info on why it is important for a lo to have a longer nap.

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=64159.msg476653#msg476653

Here is a link to help your baby transition into a deeper sleep at nap times.

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=64161.msg476655#msg476655

This link will also give you some info on Pat / Shh

https://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=64759.msg482562#msg482562

HTH's

Paula x

[Hils]

Thanks Paula,  I will try the 3 hr routine and see how she goes on that.