Hey Rach,
Great idea in getting her involved in dinner prep. Kaiya also went through a phase of asking us to feed her. I didn't want to say "no" as I know she was doing it to get the same attention as Aidan. I told her she would have to wait until I was ready. One bite for her, one bite for Aidan, one bite for me.... and on and on. She would get impatient waiting for her turn to come so she would end up doing it herself. She does still ask occasionally, but I encourage her to do it herself and cheer her on as she does. It helps that when I clap, so does Aidan, so she has a whole cheering section.
Heidi