Hi - I've copie this from Props as not sure where to post it!
This is actually for a friend of mine so is marked urgent so I get help for her asap. Her ds is approx 5 months old and she has got into the habit of holding him ALL the time during the day. He's very whiney when put down for longer than about 5 -10 mins, liking to be held facing forward and be bounced gently.
Obviously this is driving her insane now as she finds it impossible to get anything done, I have to go round and look after him so she can clean the house! He isn't a great napper and I wonder if the two things are connected as well.
Anyway, she has decided to stop this but has gone straight from holding him all the time to just putting him down. Obviously he is SCREAMING the place down and she phoned me from her car having had to leave him in the house (safely in his cot) as she was worried that she might hurt him as she feels like she just can't cope. I feel so sad for her and desperately want to help her but am not sure how. I remember reading in BWSAYP book about a similar thing with sleep training where a mum had suddenly gone and done CIO and had to re-build the bond of trust, going from holding the baby all night on a pillow, to lying next to them on the pillow etc weaning them into their cot over about 2 weeks. Does anyone know of a similar technique for daytime holding?
I want to go & see her tonight or tomorrow morning (it's 4.30pm here now) to help come up with a strategy, I know if she has something to focus on she will feel a lot better.
Any advice will be gratefully taken! I'm going to consult the book when I get home too (I'm at work at the mo).
Thanks
Shanaz