Hi- My DS is 12 mo old, and still waking most nights. I can count on my fingers the # of times he's slept through. I have been bw since he was 3 mo, and have tried it all---p/s, pu/pd, pu, w2s etc. I have been consistant, and I am just at a loss. What am I missing here? What am I not doing right? Sorry this will be kind of long to explain it all.
Some background: about a month ago I finally stopped nursing during the night (something my ped encouraged for 1 nw/night through 12 mo) I know he's not hungry when he wakes anymore. But when I did feed, he would usually go back down easily. Now we could be doing pd for 1-2-3 hrs to get him back to sleep.
Also, about 2 wks ago he started waking at 6 instead of 7....suddenly. I'll explain more below. But I have kept his AM nap the same time b/c I read earlier AM nap encourages the early wake.--though that makes for a long morning A time.
He always goes down to sleep awake and falls asleep on his own without trouble, (both naps & night)
How old is your child? 12 mo
Routine:
6 am wake & bf
7 AM start day
8 breakfast
9:30 small snack
10 nap (30 min-1:15--but usually closer to 45--if I try to extend this 45 min AM nap, he'll usually refuse afternoon nap)
11:30 lunch
2 bf
2:30 nap (usually 1:20, though will sometimes wake at 40 min...sometimes I can get him back down for another 45, but sometimes not)
4 snack
5:45 dinner
6:15 bath, books
6:45 bf
7-7:15 bed
nw are sporadic. He does not wake at the same time. They can sometimes be settled in 20 min or so, but more often 1-2-3 hrs...or he'll fall asleep but wake 20 min later and we start all over again and again.
Do you bottle or breastfed?? bf
How much? or how long? 3x per day
If breastfed.. one side or both?? both
How many wakes per night? 1-3
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? gets really upset , sometimes starts to settle, then upset again....20 min -3 hrs
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? screaming mostly, or hysterical crying
What have you tried to settle?? p/s, pu/pd, pd, etc on a rare occasion, he'll settle himself
What do you do for A time and how long is it? about 3.5 hrs, though varies based on his naps. usually we play in the house, or go for a walk in good weather, etc
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? I'm sure, there always are, but this is going on too long and too consistently to blame it on that.
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? no
Do they have a lovie? yes
I used to often think it was teething....but for how many months ongoing? It must be more than that, besides with tylenol, he's still waking, etc. It must be more.
About the early wake: I know he's still tired b/c he wakes up upset and will also often fall asleep nursing that first feeding. I have been nursing him laying down for this nursing and we usually nursing/snuggle till about 7. We've only been doing this for 2 wks, but I think this is going to create a problem, though...I can see at 3 AM him wanting the same thing now. Anyway, I have tried pd but it is just too close to morning...he is just not taking it--I've done pu for 40 min on several occasions, and it just seemed pointless to then just get him up & feed him. So anyway, I am thinking to just get him up at six, brighten the room and feed him making sure he stays awake. What do you think?
I've also tried 1 nap several times, and those times he only napped 1:20 then was up for several hrs that night. I don't think he's ready for that yet.
I just feel like I am doing everything "right" but he's still not sleeping. What am I missing here? I am really at a loss, and keep expecting we'd be beyond this by now. I appreciate every set of eyes I can get on this one. Thank you in advance.
Sarah