hi there,
I apologize if there is a similar thread recently, but I haven't had a chance to take a look.
My DS will rarely play independantly, and when he does, it's only for a minute or two. I have tried quite a few things. I always say, Cole, mommy is going to the kitchen, I'll be right back. But he won't let me leave. I have never left him to cry (as anyone on Toddler sleep or my EASY thread can attest to LOL!), so I'm not sure why he is so clingy. I never sneak away, I always say good bye when dropping him at daycare or leaving the house, so he has no reason not to trust me.
When I'm making dinner, I will try to set him up at his table with markers and paper for example, just around the corner, but he is only happy if i'm in sight. (maybe i need a new open concept house LOL) I've cooked plenty a meal with him in my arms *sigh*. He's getting better at occupying himself (will make macaroni with oven mitts on, a bowl and a wooden spoon
) but again, has to be under my feet.
I started thinking last night that possibly his inability to go to sleep independantly and play independantly are related. He is very very attached to me. He has a few stuffed animals that he likes, but none that he turns to as a lovey or comfort item. I have tried and tried and tried.
anyway, without rambling too long...does anyone have any suggestions on how to get him to be more independant. sort of a pu/pd of activity time. I'm with him at bedtime, during the night and most evenings. UGH, I need a break!
Thanks for any input.