My 10 mth old's sleeping

[samancamron]

My lo is nearly 10 mths old, he has never really slept through the night he did when he was about 3-4 mths but that only lasted for a mth or so then came teething and he has never started sleeping through again.
He will not sleep in his cot as soon as he is put in there he screams the house down, i have tried several different methods to help him go to sleep but even if he does fall asleep it is only temporarily for less than an hour and then we have to start it all over again.
He doesn't like going asleep full stop, even if i try to put him asleep in my arms (which i no i shouldn't) he will scream, he will fling his body or tense it up, he will scratch and hit my face and pull my hair.
He doesn't really get any naps during the day as he will not stay asleep for more that half an hour unless he is in his pram or car seat.
Is there anything that i could try to help him get into a proper routine of having good naps in the day and sleeping through the night in his cot and not crying all the time, Thanks[/font]

[samijoe]

It would help everyone here so much if we could see what your average day might look like for feeding and sleeping.

Then, we will all be able to better assist you.

thanks,
sami

[samancamron]

yesterday was
awake - 8am
Breakfast - 9.30 am
Bottle - 10am fell asleep having bottle and then slept until 10.30
Snack - 12
Lunch - 1.00
Bottle - 2.00 fell asleep having bottle and slept until 2.30
Dinner - 5.30
Bottle - 6.30
Sleep - 6.45 until 8.00
then awake until 10pm
Woke up twice in the night at 3.30am and then again at 6am
then woke up this morning at 9.15
it is only really the getting up in the night and the time that he goes to sleep that it is bothering me as when he wakes in the night he will not go back to sleep by himself and will happily sit up in his cot and scream for over an hour if i left him.
I spoke to my health visitor yesterday and she said that i should put him in his cot and then when he cries i should just go in and check that everything is ok and then leave him again and then just keep going in and checking on him, i didnt really want to do this as it upsets me to hear him screaming in his cot when i know that he just wants me.
Is there anything else that i could try, i have also tried the pick up and put down but i think that just makes him worse.
Thanks
Sam

[dillsmom]

I have the same problem and my ds is also almost 10mths.
Its a nightmare to get him to sleep and if he goes to sleep its only for a short while and then he also sits up and cries!I go in and check on him,lay him down and as soon as i walk away he starts again.
Last night he woke up about 6 times!
I am so tired and don't know what to do!I'm a working mom and really need him to sleep trough or just better!!!
Sorry that i don't have any advice but I just had to post,cause i'm so glad that i'm not the only one.
I started to think I have a naughty child......

[samancamron]

i also say sometimes that we must be the only ones, he is exactly the same,i put him down as soon as i walk out the room he cries again, sometimes just so i can get some sleep i put him in bed with me which i know that i shouldnt but it gives me and him both a better night sleep and this is probably the reason that he wont sleep by himself but saying that even if he is in my bed he will still wake up and not get himself back to sleep but it is easier to get him back to sleep as he wont sit there and cry like he would in his cot[/glow]

[samijoe]

sorry to tell you ladies...but 9 and 10 month olds are completely wacko!  there is just so much going on...crawling, standing....way too many things happening...why sleep???

i am not sure if your A times are very consistent.  has he always been a 30minutes napper???  is he happy after this short amount of sleep??

what do you consider a good A time for him is???

in my experience,

a 30, 35, 40 minute naps are because lo is overtired.  if they are overtired, it is almost impossible for them to settle themselves or have sound sleep.

a 45 minute naps usually indicates that more A time is necessary.  I think you are maybe leaving him a bit too long....

i also notice that he only sleeps after having a bottle.  are you feeding him to sleep??  this, and this alone could be the reason why he can't settle back down at night.  do you feed him during the night at all??

hope this info helps
sami

[AJs Mom]

I also noticed the bottle feeds being before a sleep and there wasn't a morning bottle.  I used pu/pd to teach AJ to self soothe when I got rid of the paci, but that would be something you'd turn to once you'd rule out props and other issues like feeding to sleep.

Tracey advocates an order of Eat Activity Sleep, which I'm sure you're aware and that's why you're on the site, but I thought I'd mention it just in case.  I'm also the mom of a 10 month old.  He's been on EASY since about 6 weeks.  Here's our routine on a 6:30am waking day...

E- 7:00, bottle followed by solids breakfast
A - after the feed
S - 9:00 (for 45 min-2 two hours)
Y

E - 11:00, lunch of solids and water to drink
A - after the feed
S - 2.5 hours after he last woke until 2:30ish
Y

E - 2:30, bottle
A - after the feed
S - we cut out the cat nap at about 3.5 months
Y

E - 5:00pm, dinner, solids and water to drink.
A - bath, quiet play, bottle at 6:30pm
S - 7:00pm
Y

and he sleeps through until morning

Sonja C

ps - join us in the EASY Forum under birth clubs, and click on March/April 2006 thread #2 and you'll meet the rest of us moms with LOs the same age!