Thanks for the ideas mums.
Juice boxes will definitely be a go-er as they are self-contained, not soft-drink and DD loves them atm! I hadn't thought of them.
TDR's mum - what kind of dip would you put with the veggie and fruit tray - my daughter loves hommus, but do you have any other recommendations?
Deborah - I was thinking of food allergies, but fortunately all 4 kids attending don't have any allergies. I'm taking notice of these things in particular as Rory's creche has a list of guidelines about what can be included in cakes brought in for kids birthdays (no coconut, nuts etc). I make a note not to have any food in her creche bag too - I would hate for a kid to try and eat something from her bag and have a reaction.
But what a shame the party planners at the party you went to didn't think of that! I think if they didn't know the kids allergy history they should ask. If their kid wanted a nutella cake you could bake muffins, some with nutella and a separate batch without! sheesh!
Well that's my rant for the day.