Hi again...
Gosh I wish I could say things have gotten better. We have the first nap of the day dialed in. Perfectly. After 3 hours of A time in the AM, LO goes down beautifully and sleeps for ~1hr 15-30min. Then everything falls apart. I watch cues like a hawk (to the point that I am hesitant to go out for fear of not being home for naptime), do what I think is a good wind-down, and then everything just goes to hell. DD struggles, screams, kicks, slaps, arches her back - I just don't know what to do.
Background here: we started BW'ing when DD was 5MO for nighttime sleep. PU/PD worked well for nighttime sleep, but absolutely DID NOT work for naps. I tried, consistently, for 2 months. I am not exaggerating. Two months. Finally, I just gave up. I let her nap in the car, probably getting her overtired, but hey - she napped. Then, I went back to the old naptime routine of bouncing her on the big exercise ball. It works like a charm and was great when she could be counted on to take two 30-minute naps a day. Then in mid-December she lengthened the morning nap to over an hour and just stopped the PM nap... and the struggles began again.
WHAT DO I DO?
? I feel like the worst, most caving-in mom ever for giving up the goat on PU/PD. DD can't go down for naps without help (nighttime sleep is no problem) unless she just gives up in the car (which doesn't happen much because I'm obsessed with being home at "naptime"). She is 6 weeks shy of turning One. I am feeling like I can't go on with this struggle we're in, and need to figure out what to do to help her soothe herself to sleep at naptime now that she's older. I've tried reading the BW SAYP book, but ladies, sorry to say - I have a really hard time following the disjointed nature of the writing in the book and I don't feel that it addresses older babies as well as younger ones. I know I should have stuck to my guns and made PU/PD work.
DD has a lovely crib in a room with double black-out curtains. It is not pitch black in the room but it's very dark.
Suggestions, advice, help, hugs??? I am going nuts.