DS#2 is 4 mos and has started waking and crying/struggling 3-4 times at night at random times. He previously would wake twice to bf and fall right back asleep. There has been a lot going on here lately so I don't know what is causing the nightwakings, probably a combination, but I could really use some advice on how to handle the wakings. I currently have been bfing at the wakings if it's been 3 hrs since last feed since he is in our room and I don't want him to wake DH.
Here's the background:
We have been on 3.5 hr EASY for about 3 weeks, working to 4 hrs but battling short naps. Night for him is typically 6 pm-6 am. E around 6:30, 10, 1:30, 4:45, usually 45 min naps in am and afternoon with a 2 hr midday nap.
He will go down with shh/pat, occasionally on his own, sometimes I hold him to sleep if I need him to get down quickly so I can deal with DS#1.
He is combo fed since we are in the process of weaning, I am going back to work. He gets bottles of EBM/formula in the day and bf at night. He is having a hard time on the bottles and has been more gassy lately. He is 15 lbs and takes about 20 oz from 4 daytime bottles. I have started putting gas drops in his bottles.
We have a nanny that started 2 weeks ago, she is great with him.
He started rolling over (back to front) a few days ago. He is a tummy sleeper.
I have been so desperate for sleep that I have been bringing him in bed with us after midnight. Sometimes we both fall asleep bf. At first I thought my milk was just drying up so he would eat a bit more often until he adjusted to taking more in the daytime, but last night he woke and bf at 8 pm (gas -- very short bf), 11 pm (hungry), 2:15 am (short), 5 am (very short, I admit trying to nurse him back down) and then this morning he was not at all interested in his 6:30 am bottle. I am afraid I'm creating a bad habit but he is difficult to settle at night unless I bf. DH wants to let him cry.
I feel so lost since DS#1 was so different, he was bottle fed, took a dream feed and didn't need to eat again after that although he might wake for various reasons he was relatively easy to get put back to sleep at this age with shh/pat. So at least we knew what to do.
Any ideas would be appreciated.