This kid has only slept through the night 2-3 times. Any advice greatly appreciated!
How old is your child? 12mo
What’s his/her daily routine?
On a good day it's something like this:
7 - nurse
8 - breakfast
9/10 - nap ranging from 45min to 1.5hr
10:30/11 - nurse/snack
11:45/12:30 - lunch
usu around 2/2:30pm - nap for 1.5 hr to occasionally 2hr
3:30ish/whenever she wakes - nurse/snack
5:30 - dinner (this is new--We used to eat around 6:30 but we're trying to get her to bed earlier)
anywhere from 6:30/7 - get ready for bed: read book, turn off lights, nurse, cuddles/songs
anywhere from 7 to 8 - asleep (would like to have her down by 7, but the earliest we've had her down consistently is more like
; However, on crazy days, it's not uncommon for her to be up until 10:30, which is BAD.
From that point, her wake up times vary widely. She usually wakes 3x a night, her first one being between 10 and midnight. (Although only wakes me 2x cuz I'm usually still up for the first wake up). It tends to be 1.5 hrs after we put her down, so we did do wake2sleep once recently and she didn't wake till 1am and then at 4, but then the next 2 days she woke at 1 & 4 regularly, and then hubby took her for a couple nights (Fri/Sat) so that we could break her from nursing during those 1 & 4 times (which she had been doing since Oct due to travel chaos, she got up to nursing 4/5x a night at that point!). Sunday bedtime took about 2hrs (asleep by 10:45), as did Monday--had dr appt & vaccines @ 6:45 that night!! (asleep by 9:45), Tues she was WAY off from her shots, and today we're getting back on track. (Guess I shouldn't be too upset about bedtime taking over an hour tonight w/ all she's had going on, huh....oops.) Hopefully tomorrow will be more like the outline above!
What’s nap routine? turn off the lights, cuddles/songs
Do you bottle or breastfed?? breastfeed
How much? or how long? I don't know....5/10min?
If breastfed.. one side or both?? (at each feed) both
How many wakes per night? 3
What’s your LO like when waking at night? How long is he/she up? She is one mad cookie. Even madder if I say "No nursing." Woo! Typically varies from 5min to 20min...often up to over an hour when I was trying to break her from nursing in Oct/Nov/Dec...if we both crash while nursing, then maybe 5? (at least that's how long I'm awake for) Don't know how she'll be tonight...Have to do an update post.
When you go to him/her is she fussing or crying? Or is it a mantra cry? Sometimes she'll just be fussing, sometimes crying. It's been crying lately. She's in my room, so if I don't jump to get her, any fussing does turn to cries very quickly!
What have you tried to settle??
I used to pick her up, give her paci, hold her for bit & put her back down. Then Sept(? maybe Aug?) she'd wake and just scream and fight, so I was wondering if it was reflux or night terrors or something??? October travel (in Utah for 1 week, Idaho for 1wk, UT for 1wk) started the all night nursing routine b/c nursing was the only thing that would calm her down quickly and I was staying with fam/friends. Nov I got her down to 2 nursings (those 2 early morning wakings). Over Christmas I got her down to one (usu 4am)!!! (In Washington for 3wk but family around to help during the day, what a difference that makes!). I'd hold her while she cried and then do pu/pd (10.5/11mo old at that point). Usually took about an hour to an hour & a half to get her down, at least at first? Everything went down hill after returning home, though, waking 3 times (after I went to bed, so really 4x) and I just couldn't get her back to that single early wakening due to my own exhaustion. Then, once I was ready to get sleep training, she got sick for 3 wks, and then she got her shots! We'll see what happens tonight, as she's recovered from her shots. There will be no nursing night! (wish me luck!!!)
I have to insert that there've been many a time when she's woken in the early evening and I've just let her stay up for a few hours because I've not wanted to deal with trying to put her to bed again.
What do you do for A time? she plays, eats, reads books, whatever until she is starting to show the sleepy signs.
Are there developmental issues such as teething or milestones? Didn't teeth until Christmas, but she's had silent reflux that I keep saying is and isn't the problem....it comes and goes, but her night waking is consistent!
Do they have a prop? If so what is it? she controls the paci
Do they have a lovie? snuggles w/ her blanket and sucks on paci when I lay her down if she's ready to sleep.
My current plan, assuming she doesn't get sick (dr said she had potential ear infection brewing, cross our fingers here!) and nothing crazy happens that throws off our schedules: No night nursing, make sure she eats well during the day, and hopefully have her asleep by 7 or 7:30...or at least by 8 consistently. If she starts waking up 1.5 hrs after we put her down for two nights in a row, I'll start doing wake2sleep for that.
What do you all think?
Should I stick with my current plan or do something different?
(p.s. sometimes I think I programmed her brain to wake in the evenings because when she was tiny and woke in the early evenings, we'd just keep her up until we went to bed between 10:30 and 11:30pm. I didn't know better! I didn't read BW till she was 5 mo or so!)