My DS and I say "nite-nite" to various things (each pet that is nearby, whatever toy he was playing with, the hall as I shut the bedroom door, the day/outside as I shut the blinds, etc.) then I sit in the rocker and read him books and then I rock him and sing him a song. The number of books I read and whether or not I sing the entire song depends on his level of tiredness. He just needs more winddown time sometimes. Sometimes before we say goodnight to the pets I play soft music as we play and sometimes I will just hold him and rock him or sway with him to it. I think I really need to start doing that every time. It calm him nicely. Anyway, at the end of it all as I lay him down in his crib I say "nite-nite" to him and "it is time for sleepies".
Rae-Anne