ok, well first off - sometimes ds will feed himself a bottle but depends on his mood and the type of bottle! (maybe he is just too darn spoiled or something! haha)
As for step son....WELL here is the real glitch to it all - we have moved from the city to a small town and there is not much here for resources AND we have a VERY DIFFICULT time with med professionals agreeing to the severity of the prob.....even with him underweight, etc. they still think it is a phase or something (this has been consistently going on for over 2 years) because they don't want to view it as a young boy having an eating disorder of sorts......they all say, well if he doesn't want to eat then fine, which is what i am going to have to do - even if that means he gets sick and goes in hospital or something!....because when i did that before he literally did not eat until we forced him. ridiculous.......
Oh, and YES ds will eat MUCH better if step son not around, especially if he is gone more than a day (we have full custody at the moment so this doesn't happen often).
IT is a tough situation bc I have to look out for my son ya know, kwim? but at the same time i do love my step son and want to help him too. It is SO HARD and i have no one to talk to about it! people are seem to be scared off! haha
anyways, thanks for listening if nothing else ladies. thank you. Tammy