Today has been so draining on my DH and I. My dd is 10 wks old, and has spent all day resisting naps. We would do the wind down (darken room, paci in mouth which is signal for sleep, hold against chest no patting/rocking) and then put her down in the crib. Sometimes almost immediately, or after 10-30 minutes, she would wake up ... and begin to play, coo at the flower light on the wall, etc. She will happily lay there for at least 15 minutes, after which she starts calling for attention. But never crying, just fussing. This has been going on from 9:30 a.m. to 6 p.m., after which we just gave up and gave her bath, put her to bed (she is asleep now). With the exception of 2 30min. stretches that she spent on my dh's shoulder, my lo hasn't slept today.
So this is the question: if my lo wakes up (or has never gone to sleep) and just plays, do we continue to try to put her to sleep, although she obviously seems very awake? Do we just start wind down all over again until she accepts sleep? Or do we just let her play and then pick back up with EASY and try for next nap?
We follow her sleep cues and routine (3 hr EASY), which we have been doing for a few weeks. However, these couple days we have been focusing on sleep training, and trying to abandon our tendencies to allow her to fall asleep on our chests before we lay her down. I would do sh/pat in crib when she woke up to try to get her to sleep. Sometimes I would be successful in getting her to drop off into deep sleep. Soon after I stopped sh/patting, she would wake up. Or sometimes sh/pat would not work as lo is too awake staring and smiling at crib slats. I have tried simultaneously sh/patting and shielding her eyes, but she either gets upset with that or will be interested in staring at my hand.
Basic schedule (varies from day to day)--Wake up and eat 8 am, A until 9, sleep cues begin around 9-9:15, Sleep 9:30, E 11am, A until 12, S at 12:30, etc... until 7:15 when we have bath, another bf session to top off and then down for night. Her night time sleep has been fairly good, waking around 2 and 5 to eat. Dream feeds have not worked recently (bf --too asleep to accept soft breast, or bottle--too stimulating so wakes all the way up) so just gave it up. I have tried extending the A to see if she would get more tired, but it seems that if I don't act on sleep cues immediately, she gets more hyper and energetic and then no naps ever.
I though she was textbook but now I am wondering if she is spirited. Help?