hey there.
my lo has always been on the shy side of things. since he was about 6 mos old i've been taking him to different places like playgroups (always the same 1-2), mother goose at the library and music class. music class is basically 8-12 kids aged 12-36 mos (he's one of the youngest), all girls and he and lots of music, dancing, etc... and he LOVES it! never been shy there. mother goose, he has his moments, will sometimes cling to me, but mostly he interacts wiht the other kids and parents (about 10 kids 6-36 mos). at playgroup he's oftentimes deathly afraid. with the older crowd (0-6 years) he's better than with the young one (0-13 mos) where he's now the oldest and still scared of the other kids. the babygroup is soo small and quiet too,only 4 of us, and that's where it's worst of all. also, he's not been to a birthday party that he liked (3-5 kids there). the last one, his feet never even touched the hardwood cause he held onto me so hard and cried hysterically when we tried to put all the kids together for a picture. i was right beside him....
i always thought it was a noise level thing, but why would he like it at music class then? and why hate the small group and be okay at the bigger group? and he's fine wiht most adults, just doesn't like the other kids, especially when they're his size or smaller.
does this make sense? it's been going on for months....