thanx so much for all of your insights.
new baby caiden is 8 months, he had a terrible time with the adjustment..thats how the screaming initially started, but for other things during the day. The screaming seemed to then take on a life of its own, and now he uses it in all other circumstances. I am okay with that and can very well deal with it. He is now so sweet to the baby and so helpful, theres no biting, hitting, etc. This screaming thing just came out of the blue... now that I am typing this, it seems like it began when I started dong pd/pu with baby to correct a temporary accidental parenting for going to sleep. Could he be trying to get the same attention in his crib by screaming ( what would be his interpretation of what his brother would have been doing while I was with him in?? ..........little bugger, maybe thats it.
He is definitely not doing mantra etc, when I go in he is standing in his crib wide awake, screaming. he just wants to get out. He is still tired, but he is asking to come to my bed. He used to go back to sleep when I said to lie down, but now he just wont anymore.
Anyways, your right, I will have to just go for it. Walk in/out just had the same affect on him as the pick up did when I did pu/pd. He just gets more upset.
Is it okay to go in and just simply say it is still sleep time, I am going back to bed and I will come back in when he stops screaming??
He is 2 years and 9 months old and is very smart. He knows whats going on.I say this because if I stay in his room at any point I try to leave it start it up all again.
He only started sleeping really well once I had to let him deal with me not being there after he went to bed. I was nursing baby as part of his bedtime routine as he goes to bed after toddler, and roaen decided he wanted me back in his room. I was busy, partner away working and I couldn't go to him.he seems to respond better when he knows I have said what it going on and then stick to that.
In terms of partners schedule.....there is nothing consistent, day to day, week to week. He used to be gone out of town for 2 weeks then back for a few days, and if you can believe it the time away was easier than when he came back. But as of now he works nights, days, anytime he is called out. there is not one day that I could schedule anything with him in mind. it all causes huge friction on a relationship, and then, of course, the kids. I have a teenager too, poor guy, he is great,has also been a great help with the litle ones, but has to watch our spirited one and does a lot of head shaking.
Anyways, I will tackle roaen in his crib wheen it is happening and just want to know, it is not okay for me to tell him I will go into his room to get him when he is not screaming, but calling me quietly?
thanx, melissa
