DH and i are really lost at what to do
our little one is 11 months 1 week
this is his schedule. he's been on it for about 4 weeks. He pretty much put himself on this schedule
5:30 wake up(he's been waking at this time since 4 months, we've tried everything, its just him)
6:30 breakfast
9:30 5 oz. bottle
10-12:30 nap
1:00 lunch
3:30 5 oz. bottle
6:00 dinner
6:45 5 oz.bottle
7:00 bedtime
he is usually out by 7:15 the latest
He is very happy, not cranky. we moved to 1 nap because he was always so cranky and fussy when he slept only 1-1.5 hours. then one day he took a long AM nap and was so happy. we;ve been on this schedule for about a month now
he goes down for naps and bedtime NO PROBLEMS. sometimes we have to shh/pat him for a minute or two but normally he goes right down. he doesn't wake during his naps either
our problem is that 3-4 times a week he'll wake in the middle of th enight. NEVER at the same time either. when he wakes, he is hysterical. we go in(only when he is absolutely crying, not fussing). he's either sitting or standing in his crib. he's been walking now for over a month
when we go in, we lay him down, ssh/pat for a minute and walk out. well thats it. whenever he wakes hysterical, we know we are in for a couple hours. usually 2-3 hours. if we go in and shh/pat and stay, he'll just stop crying and stare at us or the wall but will not fall asleep. if we attempt to leave, he gets hysterical. this just goes on and on
we can stand there over his crib, not even shh/pating him and he'll just stare but the minute we leave, he cries
we can go in and out like that forever.
sometimes he'll just cry himself to sleep. one time i took him out of the crib and he fell asleep in my arms(this was after 3 hours and we didn't know what else to do) but i don't like doing that.
we normally lay him down, as he sits or stands himself back up. put his blanket over him and shh/pat and walk out after a bit.
but like i said, this goes on for hours until unfortunatelly he cries himself to sleep
this does not happen every night. maybe every 2-3 nights but when it does, we don't know what to do. and like i said its never at the same time.
he's not hungry, or teething or poopy diaper. he has minor seperation anxiety with me but is fine being left with our nanny or DH.
DH has tried to go in(thinking once he sees me the SA kicks in) but its the same. he doesn't have SA with DH or nanny during the day. they can come and go frequently.
so we're not sure whats going on or what to do
I am due with baby #2 in 4-5 weeks(yes, a year apart) and i'm scared at how little sleep i really am going to get. i'll be home for 3 months with the new baby before returning to work. but we all know how little sleep we get with a newborn. i don't know what we're going to do battling this at the same time
anyone have any suggestions??