I agree with skatty those first two months are definitely some of the hardest. From looking at your routine however, your lo may be getting too much daytime sleep, especially since he is resisting bedtime. And it also looks like he may be getting overtired (seems contradictory doesn't it? maybe I can explain myself). An 8:30 bedtime is entirely too late since your lo is getting up between 5-6am. For a lo that young, sometimes a bath is too stimulating to help with winding down. We still don't do a bath with dd as part of the bedtime ritual. It just doesn't fit right for us as at that time of day, so I usually do it as part of one of her A time earlier in the day. If I am in your shoes, I would start shooting for a 12 hour day and 12 hour night. Since he is already waking at 5-6 I would start as you are trying with 6am so maybe your day could look something like this: Oh and I am assuming he is formula fed since you mentioned he eats in ounces
if he is breastfed, he may not be able to follow a 3hr EASY yet, and may have to be shorter, but again I am going to assume you ff:
E 6am
A 6-7
S 7-9
E 9
A 9-10
S 10-12
E 12
A 12-1
S 1-3
E 3
A 3-4
S 4-4:45 Catnap to be able to make it to bedtime and not be OT
E 4:45 You can cluster feed here if you like, otherwise there would just be A time here
A 4:45-6 any wind down - if you like, you can still do the bath and night time ritual here
S 6 for the night
DF between 9-11. I'd probably do it around 9:30. Then cross your fingers till morning. If he wakes in the night, and is hungry - feed him, and try to put right back down to bed.
I see you say he is grumpy when awake, and that is probably from being overtired from bad night time sleep. So yes, I tend to agree he probably has day and night confused. Sticking to a really good 3hr EASY during the day will hopefully help cut down on the night wakings because he is getting more A time during the day. Also, you can open the curtains, take him outside (if not blazing hot) especially in the afternoons, as that can help set their internal clock and realize - hey, it's daytime, not night time! Just remember to keep him out of direct sunlight.
Also whenever we were trying to lengthen A times we would do things really quietly. No toys (they're so little, do they really enjoy them anyway at this age?) no tv on, just very quiet. Cuddling, floor time, swing in swing (but not to sleep), walk around facing outwards looking at the house, etc.
Also starting a really good wind down routine helped my dd to realize it was about to be time to go to sleep. In the beginning it was diaper change, swaddle, lights out/blinds closed, sound machine on, rock in rocker while singing a song or two. In the beginning I rocked her to sleep (AP I know, but it worked out well for us) and I gradually began putting her down more and more awake. At first, I'd rock her completely asleep - eyes closed for at least a few minutes, and then lay her down. Then gradually I moved from putting her down completely asleep to putting down when: eyes closed for a minute, eyes are open closed open closed, on the verge of being asleep, yawning after singing a minute, now she is put down when wide awake, and goes off to sleep all on her own!
So I know this reply is entirely too long, but I hope it does make sense. Let me know how you are getting on, and if any of this helps!! Good luck - sending good sleep vibes your way ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~`
