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Offline Caroline-Charlies Mummy

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'Too frightened'
« on: August 07, 2007, 21:04:38 pm »
I don't know if you remember, but we had a sleeping blip a couple of months ago, but we got over that. For a while now, ds has been on a great routine, and has been quite happy to be left at bedtime, even down to having a loud shouting 'bye bye' contest as I went down the stairs ;) :D. Same for naps - quite happy, good sleeper.

That's until about 4 days ago. I'm pretty sure nothing has happened to him, but he's now near hysterical about the idea of going to bed, even at tea-time, before he goes up for his bath. I sat down with him and had a 'chat' (he is only 2!) yesterday, and got the information out of him that he doesn't like it when he wakes up - now he just keeps saying 'no bed, too frightened' over and over :'(. I've ended up sitting next to his cot as he falls asleep, and creeping out after he's gone.

I'm so tired, b/c he's been waking up in the early hours, shouting and shouting, and simply refusing to go back to sleep, either in his bed or mine :(.

Do you think this is bad dreams? Something has happened in his cot? Overtired?

Help!
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2007, 21:07:57 pm »
Poor little pet.

A few weeks ago Riley told me there was a "big bear" in the bedroom?!? I guess this is the age for the next stage of sleep sagas to unfold.

No help to offer, as we cosleep anyway, but hope it passes soon.
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2007, 21:10:13 pm »
Oh dear, more sleep sagas :-\ . A big bear? Wonder if it is nightmares?

Thanks for the quick response :-*
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2007, 21:11:37 pm »
No big help from here either  :-\

We are having those issues and now Sam sleeps in his room at night. Is there a possibility you can sleep somewhere where he can see you in the morning? Keep the doors open or something?

Hope it passes... gentle withdrawal will probably be the method...


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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2007, 21:12:37 pm »
Caroline, does he have a nightlight?
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #5 on: August 07, 2007, 21:15:42 pm »
Hi :)

Don't know if this will work, but have you tried giving him (or using a current) toy which will 'look after' him in his room when you're not there. The same reason they get frightened means they can also believe that their toys are really real. Maybe tell a few stories about how the toy rescues him in the night or something!!

Might work :)
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #6 on: August 07, 2007, 21:17:07 pm »
Are you thinking afraid of the dark, Mari?

I did think that was possible, but he has a toy on the side of his cot which lights up, and has a lightshow on the ceiling - he's in control of it, and I often hear it go off in the middle of the night.

Steffi - you've given me an idea. We have interconnecting rooms (we knocked through a fitted wardrobe when he was born, so it looks like I'm disappearing into the wardrobe when he calls :P). I normally shut his door when I go to bed, but I won't tonight - see if that makes a difference.
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #7 on: August 07, 2007, 21:18:29 pm »
Lawnseed - he sleeps with a menagerie ::), but particularly a favourite teddy. I haven't talked about him 'looking after him' yet, that's a good idea :)
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #8 on: August 07, 2007, 21:20:41 pm »
Quote from: Charlie's Mummy on August 07, 2007, 21:17:07 pm
it looks like I'm disappearing into the wardrobe when he calls :P).

I think I would scream, too  :P

What i do when sam isn't there I lay down when he falls asleep and he sees where I lie down... That will probably not work for the first tuck in, he will be too wound up to accept it, so maybe stay a bit closer to his bed with a mattress? And then move further and further towards your own bed? With the mattress?
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« Reply #9 on: August 07, 2007, 21:22:05 pm »
I found a good attachment to the lovey absolutely essential for sleeping, too... Scotty can also pick one (childsafe) toy to go to bed... he picks a Thoman train and puts himself to sleep rolling it back and forward...
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #10 on: August 07, 2007, 21:24:32 pm »
 ;D lol Steffi

I was thinking gradual withdrawal too, but I think he's waking in the night and realising I'm not still there, where I was when he fell asleep. Not sure what to do about that one :-\
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #11 on: August 07, 2007, 21:31:20 pm »
The withdrawal is very slow...

I'm afraid the first night you'll sleep with a mattress next to his bed... That for a few nights and then the withdrawal starts. Centimetre by centimetre away from the bed...

Or do you mean he's waking when you are still up?
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #12 on: August 07, 2007, 21:34:05 pm »
Yeah, I try to get him into bed by 7-730pm, and he's waking around midnight when I'm still awake.

Ugh, bite the bullet and go back to sleeping on the nursery floor, eh? I suppose I'll have to, I don't want him being upset in his bed, poor little chicken
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #13 on: August 07, 2007, 21:37:39 pm »
Caroline could there be something in his room creating a shadow on the wall or something like that?
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Re: 'Too frightened'
« Reply #14 on: August 07, 2007, 21:39:21 pm »
Have you asked him Car?

Had to stick that in, just to use your shortened name!

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