Aisling, I'm grateful you posted that!! Like I said, sometimes I feel crazy, so it's good to know there are other LOs out there like this!
Layla : My DH never believed me either (he claimed we needed to 'tire him out more'
), but he's finally come around. I would specifically say "This has been a 1 nap day, and he was up too long before bed. We will have multiple wakings." and...Voila! That's exactly what would happen! He thought going outside, playing rough before bed, etc. would help. Argh. At least now he's on my team again!
I feel like a new woman today. LO slept thru the night!! Well, almost. He did have a brief waking at 2:30. I let DH take care of it entirely. He shush patted (emphasis on the shush) in the crib. LO slept for 15 minutes then woke again. now I'll tell you our shameful secret. Normally, waking again in 15 minutes we would get frustrated and a) swaddle, and b) feed bottle. DH ALMOST fed bottle. He actually went downstairs to get it ready, but LO fell back to sleep on his own before it was done! Woohoo! That taught us a HUGE lesson! LET THE POOR KID BE!! He knows how to do it, stop rushing to fix it. We knew this before, but when he was getting those #$#$@*O& molars in, he was so inconsolable all the time that we added a pile of props. The molar is nearly completely in now, so he doesn't have pain on his plate anymore. That's helping a lot. So we need to drop the props! Anyway, he fell back to sleep on his own at 3, fussed a tiny bit a little before 7 but put himself back to sleep and is still there now (about 30 minutes later). No intervention! No bottle! No getting out of crib! No stupid swaddle that is meant for an infant!!!!
We did 2 naps yesterday. AM nap was 1.5, PM nap was 30 (but it lasted until 5pm). Now that i know this is key, I'm going to limit AM nap to 30, and make PM nap longer so that we aren't sleeping until 5 pm. I think I can tweak it that way. We're getting closer to 1 nap, though, b/c he's almost at 4 hours of A time between naps. If he can go past 4 hours, I think we can then make it to bedtime! Or, if he could just stretch that 1 nap to 2.5 hours like he used to, then I think it would work too. Maybe soon!!
Thanks for all your help. It also helps that he finished teething on Monday, but I wouldn't have had the courage to ditch the props without you guys. And reinforcing the 2 naps was so valuable. THANK YOU!
P.S. I realize two nights isn't forever! But I feel like at least we're on the right track!