Hi everyone,
I'm new here although I've been lurking for a while now. I've read the whisperer books and have tried to implement Tracy's suggestions as best I can. But I seem to be stuck at 2 major points and I'd love some advice from you smart people!
So the first problem is that our daughter A doesn't sleep in her bed or on her own. During the day she sleeps in my or DHs arms and at night she sleeps next to me in bed.
Second problem is that I have been using breastfeeding to calm her down so I nurse her way more often than every 3 hours. I nurse when she wakes up, and then again when I am Trying to get her to sleep.
I also think that her A times are too long, but even if I start to calm her down within 1 hour of waking she will take forever to fall asleep. This means that then I am sometimes nursing her on and off for an hour trying to get her to sleep. Which gives her gas, so she is sometimes awake due to that.
The only other way I've found to get her to sleep is to put her in the moby wrap or (less useful) the baby bjorn, and walk around until she falls asleep.
Sometimes I'm able to put her down after she falls asleep but usually doing that causes her to wake up, and then she doesn't fall back asleep at all or not easily.
So today for example I had a decent schedule but it was with using the wrap and holding her and nursing lots. Here's what it looked like:
S 8pm: sleep on daddy's lap on the couch while I get some sleep until she wakes, which is usually around
E 12:15 am: first night E, very short
E 3:15: second nighttime e, again very short
E 5:30: E, and then dozing and b/f off and on until I get up at 7
S 7-8:
E 8-8:45
A - 9:15
E 9:15 to 9:30
S 9:30 to 11 (in moby)
E -11:45
A - 12:15
E - -12:30
S 12:30 - 3 (first in baby bjorn, then right back to sleep after a short nurse when I took her out of it)
E/a: 3-4:15 (not very hungry when she woke so I did a then went back to it)
S:4:30-5:30 (after 15 minutes of walking, fell asleep in bjorn)
E: 5:30-6
A/e/screaming
6-7:45
S: 7:45 (down for the night...I hope)
Oh, I should mention that I have tried to get her to take a pacifier and even though I tried 12 different kinds, she refused them all.
I guess this is my fact for not "starting at day 1" but even then it took the boob to calm her down....
I'm thinking to start by putting her crib in our bedroom and getting her to sleep there at night, since she's used to sleeping laying down at night. Then...then I don't know! We had a lot of problems with her older brother and ended up using CIO but I really don't want to do that again. I think maybe DH and I are both a little scarred from him crying constantly so we don't want that to happen again...
Please help me! What should I do?
Thanks so much for any wisdom!!