Not stupid I dont think. I HAVE to be particular about my sons naps--he is 9 months old. If I weren't then I would be even more miserable than him!! I discovered that he NEEDS his sleep. I do notice that a lot of people I know are not nearly as conscious about their childrens naps-and some suffer and some do not. I think it depends on the child--as all things do, right??? My son gets very annoyed when he is overtired....and is one of those sleepers who will not fall asleep in my arms---and a lot of the time, strange places are difficult too. I don't think I've made a bad choice about putting sleep first--as a result I have a much MUCH happier baby, and my home is happier too.