i actually started working on the dairy farm to try and get her over it. I'm a doctor really, but my friends have a dairy farm and I grew up on a farm so I decided to do help them out for a bit and try to get her used to cows. TBH she's quite good about real cows, she likes to stroke them. it's if she hears the noise and doesn't see the cow.
and yes the in laws are very disresrectful about it. and that's not the only issue they're like that with, but they had 5 children so they know better than me. it's a real pain.
she does also have instant terror with some strangers, usually old men to be honest, but she wasn't scared of santa, which surprised me, because she is a bit wary of men with beards (despite having a beardy grandad).
she's cool about the hoover though, that really doesn't bother her at all.
funny aren't they?