Author Topic: EASY questions (Read 2207 times)

Wei · « **on:** August 14, 2006, 16:01:17 pm »

Hi

I've just started on a 2.5-3.5 hr EASY this week and had a couple of frustrating days. My DD just turned 5 weeks old and has spent the last few weeks being rocked to sleep by family visiting from far away... and me too because I couldn't get her to sleep any other way! I had to back off one day becaus eLO was way over tired (didn't get more than 7 hours sleep) so once she was back on track to her happy self I started again today. She slept really well last night, oddly enough and actually woke up twice for nightfeeds and slept until 6:30 am and was wide awake happy. This is the first time she's done that... usually she wakes no later than 5 am.

So this morning I fed (breastfed) her at 6:30am... she played till about 7:10am...we did wind down then by 7:30am I tried to put her down for a nap. I tried for 45 min with shh-pat and it didn't work so I put her in the swing to ensure she got some sleep without me rocking her. She woke at 9:40 ish and I fed her for 20 minutes ish... and then she played till about 10:30 where I wound down and laid her to sleep within 10 minutes. This time I tried shh-pat again and after 45 min she finally went to sleep! I was so happy! I stayed a few extra minutes just to make sure she didn't startle. So she will be due for her next feeding now in about 10 minutes.

I'm just wondering... if at night I choose to put her in the swing just for the last nap before bedtime, will that be bad? It's just the only time I will get to spend with my husband to converse with him and do some activity with him before bedtime. Also, my LO makes a messy diaper halfway through the night usually in one of her night feedings... I tend to change her diaper and feed her and then she goes right back to sleep. I just find that she's not happy unless her diaper is perfectly clean and poopless! Do any of you ladies change your little one's diapers? Or are they just happy tos leep through it until morning?

Thanks... it's really been frustrating and I know it will eventually get better. I just hope I can still have a life and travel to see family with her without messing up her EASY schedule too much!

Oh and the other thing is... Tracy promotes breastfeeding with just one side at a time. But, I've been doing it with both sides... I am wondering if that's maybe why LO spits up at least once a day.

Any thoughts?

Wei

Wei · « **Reply #1 on:** August 15, 2006, 16:23:08 pm »

As an add on to my original message, I ended up getting LO to sleep with shh-pat on her own 2 more times that day but they did take an hour each. At bedtime, it used to be she'd just eat and then doze right away for 4 hours straight... wake up for a feed and sleep 3 more hours... and then I'd have to struggle to get her to sleep more after a 3rd feed a couple hours later (I found nursing her in bed worked really well... she'd sleep for another 3 hours but I don't want to have her in bed with me for too long!!). Last night however, it was a complete nightmare... even after an hour of shh-pat she didn't quiet down. I really don't think she likes to be swaddled... she seems happier when her arms are out of the swaddle but then I'm stuck with the problem that she flails her arms and grabs things when she fusses and cries. So I really am stuck. I don't know what to do! Dh and I got into a big fight last night over this whole EASY thing... ugh.

She turning 6 weeks soon and I'm just worried if I wait too long to get her into a better habit it'll be hard for her when I start to go back to work in a few months and she has to go to daycare. Also, I noticed today she may be starting on her growth spurt. She's always started early on growth spurts and tends to feed anywhere from an hour to an hour and half. I guess now would not have been a good time to start on EASY!

At wits end,
Wei

rebecaq · « **Reply #2 on:** August 15, 2006, 19:02:13 pm »

Hi Wei!

Reading through your post I see one thing that may be the core of the trouble you've been having. Consistancy. It seems that a lot of the accidental parenting going on is because you're looking for quick fixes. While it may fix things now it creates a bigger problem later on. Your dd may be showing resistance to shh/pat because you also rely on the swing to get her to sleep. So in her mind she's going " Hey!! This isn't how we sleep!!" when you try shh/pat.

Kudos to you for noticing the growth spurt! Many moms tend to think that all their hard work with EASY has gone down the drain out of the blue ( myself included when ds had his first one!

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EASY takes a while to pay off, but when it does, boy is it nice! Babies have so much going on internally that to have a structured outside world helps them feel safe and at ease. But don't expect miracles after a few days of EASY it's takes a while, right now her naps may be extended by 5 mins, not much by adult standards but a major improvement for a baby! Stick to your guns and you will see the pay off.

I know how your hubby feels, mine went through the same thing. And we put ds on EASY at 4 months so it was hard on our relationship for a few weeks. Is her bedtime late? Is that why you and your hubby can't spend time together after she goes to bed?

I recommend changing her diaper as soon as she poops. Most babies get upset when left in a soiled diaper for too long, also she may get a rash from it.

Basically remember what Tracy says in her books "Do as you mean to go on"

Let me know how you get on!

- Beca

Wei · « **Reply #3 on:** August 16, 2006, 01:30:11 am »

Yay! I took the swing out for today and it seems to be going well.

Today she managed to go to sleep and have all her naps! I had to change the shh-pat though. I had a c-section and the incision is still fairly bruised so it wasn't that comfortable to bend over her crib all the time. Plus, I could never shh loud enough than her cries! So I put on a lullaby CD instead and patted her... it turned out to work even better! The first nap took an hour before she relaxed to sleep but the others...within 10 minutes she would stop squirming and by 30-40 min she was out like a light!

Her naps in the daytime and night vary...but they average anywhere from 45 min to 1.5 hours max. If she is really tired, it's 2 hours.

Now I'm about to do the dreamfeed. Hopefully, she'll take to the breast!

Just some questions, how do you manage to incorporate EASY with other things in life... ie. taking a road trip somewhere. I was thinking I'd time the nap periods of 1-2 hours as "driving" periods since she always falls fast asleep in the car no matter what. We'd stop for a feed and then activity time and then go back on the road if she started to show sleepy signs. (And put on her lullaby CD in the car)

Any thoughts? Thanks.

Wei

rebecaq · « **Reply #4 on:** August 16, 2006, 13:22:48 pm »

I'm so happy to hear that things are going well

I'm very glad that you took the swing out, it's difficult when they get dependent on it.

As for being sore from a C-Section, I know what you mean. It was awful for me at first. But it will get better in time

I think the lullaby CD is a great option!!

As for implementing EASY on trips. you're on the right track. Plan S time for driving and pull over for E and A time, and also strech your legs for a bit

And don't stress out if naptime isn't at the same time everyday. Remeber EASY is a routine, not a unbreakable contract. Your just getting her used to not depending on anything but herself to sleep, like nursing, rocking etc etc etc.

When are you going on your trip and where??

- Beca

Wei · « **Reply #5 on:** August 16, 2006, 14:13:45 pm »

Hi Beca,

Thanks for that tip! The only thng was last night DD kept on waking up every 2 or 2.5 hours or so... not sure if it's because I implemented EASY or if I'm right about her growth spurt. She usually sleeps 4 hours straight, then 3 hours, then 2...and then I have to nurse in bed for 3 more hours. I suppose if that doesn't change by this weekend then it's probably something else other than a growth spurt. Then, that means I have no clue how to fix that! She took the dreamfeed too but still woke up 2 hours later. What else could it be if it's not a growth spurt? And, I stil haven't taken out nursing her in bed and letting her fall asleep with me for the last feed after 5am... it was the only way I could get her to sleep longer. In total, her bedtime lasted about 11 hours. I think next week, once I'm sure what she's going through is or isn't a growth spurt, I will take that away too and just shh-pat her back to sleep.

By the way, when it comes to poopy diaper changes in the middle of the night... should I still be doing that after a feed? Or should I change it first and let her feed then sleep?? I'm a little confused about that.

We aren't going very far. We live in Nova Scotia, Canada... and we were going to drive up to Cape Breton to see the Cabot Trail sometime in the next few weeks. It was going to be a mom and dad trip... we decided once a month we needed a date night or some sort of sanity trip (even if it's only 1/2 hours away) just to get away. So far, I don't really keep a schedule of EASY for her.. I just make sure she gets E, A, S.

Ok..gotta go nap while I still can.

Thanks,
Wei

rebecaq · « **Reply #6 on:** August 16, 2006, 15:00:34 pm »

Hey Wei,

I agree with you in waiting a few days to see if it's the growth spurt that's waking her. If after a few days you see she's still waking at night then we need to see if it's hunger or habitual waking.

As for the poopy diaper, it depends. Does she get awakened by a diaper change? If so, then I'd change her before or in the middle of a feed. I would nurse my ds on one side, change his diaper so he would come back to the land of the living (nursing really concked him out! ) and then he'd nurse on the other side. If she has no problems with a diaper change then you can do it afterwards. Just as long as she's not in a poopy diaper all night

Your date night with your dh sounds great. I hope you guys have a great time and can unwind

Talk to you soon

- Beca

NiknLily · « **Reply #7 on:** August 16, 2006, 18:46:05 pm »

Hi
Just thought I'd give you some hopeful news my DD woke frequently through the night for a long time then gradually the time after dream feed started to extend until she naturally dropped one feed at a time down to just one feed at about 4am. I found it best although quite hard sometimes to dream feed no sooner than 11pm to really max the time she would sleep after. I also had to change her at the dream feed and in the early days in middle of night, I found it best to change first quickly but quietly then feed, my DH would sometimes have to placate her with kisses while I wipt through the change but that way she would be asleep by the time feed was over and most times could be laid straight back down with no bother. This wont last long tho' once she's dropped down to 1 night feed you probably will only have to change nappy at dream feed. At some point she stopped pooing at night and now she sleeps through the night her last change is after bathtime.
I guess what I'm saying is stick with it, soon 3am nappy changes will be a thing of the past.
All the best
Nik

Wei · « **Reply #8 on:** August 17, 2006, 15:14:19 pm »

Well, things definitly weny downhill yesterday...just a couple questions. She still wakes up often at night and is wide awake. I'm not sure if it's still hunger or needs help slleeping...her signs have been confusing!

She gets out of her swaddle (even the aussie one) so I have to redo it occassionally. Should I be feeding her in swaddle mode for night feeds?

And I'm a little confused about shhh-pat for 5 wk old. The moment I lay her down should i be doing it`constantly? or only when she fusses?

I find that shh-pat works great when at home but when i'm out and about i have to rock her to sleep. I just don't see a way around it.
thanks
Wei

NiknLily · « **Reply #9 on:** August 17, 2006, 18:52:55 pm »

Hi
I'm sure the moderators will have better advice than me, but I always feed swaddled, well not actually swaddled but more wrapped pigs in blankets style! I found that although free hands could be a problem in early days she soon found her fists for comfort even tho her aim wasn't brilliant she soon got the hang and would suck at the fleshy heel of her thumb. Anyway back to feeds, if you feed them all wrapped up you don't have to disturb them at end of feed just lay them back down.
With regard to shush-pat we never could get to grips with it, it would work until she was laid down then she would wake again. Its very good at quieting a crying baby but for some I think is too much for them to fall asleep with. I found the only way I could sort out the getting to sleep problem was to really beat her to it with bed time cutting her A time back so there was no way she was overtired, I would cuddle her and shush quietly and very very gently rock more of just a slight movement then as she was nodding would hold her still and when I was sure she was asleep I would lay her down. She would sometimes wake with a jolt so I would first just lay my hand on her and shush, if that failed I would pick her up and start again. As she got more happy with this way of settling I started to put her down just before she was falling asleep until at about 8weeks I would do a very quick Four S wind down (max 4mins) then put her down and she would turn her head find a hand the suck and go straight to sleep. At some point I actually realised that the more I tried to help her go to sleep the harder she found it to settle.
With regards to breast feeding, you mention feeding from both sides, I don't want to teach granny how to suck eggs but are you sure she's getting to the hind milk before swapping sides, and as its still early days for your milk supply you may want to do a yield to make sure you are producing enough, you can compare how much you pump with what a bottle fed baby should be getting, and remember the experts say a baby can get at least an ounce more than a pump. By doing a yield it will satisfy you that you are producing enough and I found that by pumping some off, even if it didn't get drunk, it helps to increase your supply. I think thats another reason why you should be really sure baby has drained a boob and then some, to ensure your body can produce enough from just one side so when they are going through a growth spurt or are just extra hungry you have got the other side in reserve as it where.
Hope this is helpful and remember to get extra sleep yourself during the day when she sleeps as a tired mummy tends to lead to a less happy baby and could effect your milk supply too.
Big hugs
Nik

rebecaq · « **Reply #10 on:** August 17, 2006, 20:19:54 pm »

Wei,

Is she a spirited baby? Does she do fine out of the swaddle? Some babies don't depend on the swaddle, for example my spirited boy. Also, are you using a wedge?

Also remeber that shh/pat has to be done correctly in order to work. The patting on her back has to be rythmic as does the shhh part. And remember to keep going even if she has settled, keep going until you see her really zone out. It can take anywhere from 20 - 30 mins start to finish. Use your hands to block visual stimulation if you see that to be a problem to.

I also agree with Nik about doind a yield. It will help to see how your supply is and that stored milk can be used to top her off or fro a dreamfeed. And also nap nap nap whenever you can!

Let me know how it goes

- Beca

Wei · « **Reply #11 on:** August 18, 2006, 01:07:50 am »

She's supposed to be an angel and textbook baby but she's been anything but since starting on EASY. I'm confused!
What's a wedge? I mostly use rolled up receivng blnkets to support her from rolling onto her tummy.

Tonight she is a nightmare. I tried the shh-pat with music for naps today and only had to do them to calm her down when she cried lying in the crib but stopped when she stopped. She would fall alseep on her own within 30 min. But going to bed tonight is a different story. She's a nightmare! I have to admit I messed up the swaddle and had to do it a couple of times...which might have set off her crying and it's turned into an all out shriek. Once it gets to that point, nothing I do will calm her down except..time.

I will have to feed her soon again since she's getting close to what would have been her dreamfeed.

Wei

NiknLily · « **Reply #12 on:** August 18, 2006, 09:08:14 am »

Hi Wei
So sorry your having such a rough time of it. A wedge is a pre-made rolled up blanket in effect, so rolled up blankets will do just fine. Its excellent news that the naps seem to be getting better, and she is now proving she can fall asleep on her own, even if at this stage its taking 30mins the time it takes her will get shorter and shorter, I promise.
With regard to bed time and indeed all the night time wakings, is she getting enough sleep during the day to get a good restful sleep at night? she may well be extremely overtired by bed time which would explain why she cant settle and gets very upset. My DD is exactly the same, if the days been too long or she hasn't had good naps she is far too overtired to get to sleep at bedtime, she is now 16weeks 4days and is still the same.
When I started EASY I started on the 3hr EASY based on the one set out in Tracy's book page 25 'typical EASY day for 4week old'. I didn't worry too much about the timing's tho and I worked more on getting the right amount of sleep from her first, so for example if she woke at 7am and fed for 20-30 mins then A time for 30-40mins I new I wanted to get a min of 1.5hrs sleep from her before her next feed even if it took 1hr to get her to sleep I would still let her sleep until she'd had 1.5hrs, obviously if she woke sooner hungry I would feed her and start the cycle over but again I would try to get 1.5hrs sleep the next time, aiming to get 3 1.5hr sleeps and 45min catnap before bath, I would seldom manage to get the last 30min nap before last cluster feed but wasn't too worried about that.
As Tracy says 'good sleep begets good sleep' and in doing this I think it helped establish good nap times of 1.5hrs rather than 30mins here and 45mins there. If you get this part of the routine sorted then gradually as she gets better and better at falling asleep for her naps you will be able to bring the timings in line with the 3hr cycle. And hopefully if she's getting enough sleep during the day her night time sleep should improve.
The other thing is I found that a 7.30pm bedtime is just too late in the day for her, even at 16weeks a much better bedtime is max 7pm although depending on how well the day has gone even that can be too late and a 6.30/6.45 works best. I think some babys simply need more sleep than others, which is definitely the case with my DD as even now the textbook says she can be awake 2hrs at a time which she cant she can still only manage 1 session at 1.75hrs and the rest at 1.5hrs otherwise bedtime is a nightmare.
Lastly, sorry I'm on a roll here, I didnt implement a rigid bedtime routine of feed, bath, lullaby and bed for along time, I think mainly because the days were quite messy, sometimes it was just too late, othertimes I just couldnt be bothered as I was tired myself... BUT and it was a big BUT when I finally got my act together and started doing the same routine before bedtime every day suddenly she got so much better at going to sleep at night and slept so much sounder, so I really cant Emphasise enough how important a relaxed happy bedtime ritual is.
Sorry I've gone on so long, hope its helpful
Big Hugs
Nik

Wei · « **Reply #13 on:** August 18, 2006, 18:18:52 pm »

Hi Nik,

Last night was terrible for bedtime but after I fed her (1.5 hrs past putting to bed time) she relaxed and went to sleep in 15 min. However, I had to do 2 wakings after to feed her.. .the final one being in bed with me because mom was soooo tired. I think I will start weaning her off of nursing in bed right before wakeup. She wasn't very easy to get to bed this morning after her first feed with me in bed.

I would love for her to get 1.5 hours sleep everytime. Yesterday she only slept 2 45 min naps in the daytime and took an hour in the afternoon... then 1.5 hrs in the evening before last eating before bed. This morning she took her first nap for 1.5 hrs so I hope this second one that she's in will last as long. I just go with however much sleep she needs. I think her growth spurt, if that's what she's going through, could be slowing down because she's able to sleep a little longer in her naps. Before then, she was napping short ones and waking up really hungry. Today she took her 1.5 hour nap and was not overly anxious or desperate to eat... she was quite relaxed.

But, her bedtimes are not all at the same time. She's usually at her most alert stage around 7ish... so I guess she likes to go to bed around 8ish.

I just started on a bedtime routine to let her distinguish the difference between nap time and bedtime. Hopefully that will help, along with not nursing her in bed...but we'll see in the coming weeks. Bedtime is now E about 20-30 min and then A is massage for 10 min after diaper change and then Sleep. I'm hoping once she sees that after a massage there is no real activiy time anymore after feeds, she will et the point. I don't know how long that will take! Just as long as she keeps taking naps during the day... I can still catch up on some missed sleep. I'm just glad she naps now! I was having such a hard time with that until I started EASY... and bedtime wasn't too bad.. it's worse now but my accidental parenting wasn't always working either.

Thanks for the info!! I have a feeling this board may be hearing from me more and more as the days go on and I run into some more confusion.

Wei

Wei · « **Reply #14 on:** August 19, 2006, 15:29:43 pm »

So last night, her bedtime schedule went something like this. DD is turning 6 weeks tomorrow! My first week of EASY has been trying.

E 8:40 pm
A 9:10 pm 10-15 min baby massage
S 9:25 pm.... but it took 50 minutes for her to settle and conk out. For some reason, bedtime take a lot longer to get her to sleep than any of her 3 naps earlier in the day!

Dreamfeed 11:25pm

E 1:48am
S 3:30 (she needed 40 min of help to conk out)

E 5:35 am
S 6 am (conked out after eating)

E 7:14 (woke up unwrapped herself... hunger??)
S 7:50

E 9:30 good morning!

Now. this schedule isn't much different than the day before when I tried to tank her up every 2 hours. Yesterday I just let her sleep through her 1.5 hr naps instead of waking her. Is there something I'm doing wrong that keeps getting her up?? I can't figure it out.

Wei
Wei

Wei · « **Reply #15 on:** August 20, 2006, 00:49:53 am »

Sorry for so many posts... I just keep running into hurdles and don't know what to do!!

I read the FAQ again and answered some of my own questions... but now... I have another.

Naps are usually happening after I rock her quickly in the rocking chair... but it's really quick because there is so little time left to swaddle and hit the bed!

Tonight, bedtime didn't work well either... I changed it up so that his last nap and bedtime went something like this (I generally aim for 9-9:30am waking)

E 6:30pm (just finished nap 3, last nap!)
A bouncer chair while mom and dad eat 7:10pm
A look at the blinds (she loves this!) for 15 min
Get ready for bedtime - clean head to toe with sponge and into night time clothes
I tried the massage again but this time she cried so I didn't do it. Instead, we rocked in the rocking chair and then I sat on the floor and swayed her gently to calm her crying from the massage. She seemed to like it the last 2 days!
E 8 pm...wanted to make it 8:30pm but she was starting to get really tired.
S 8:30pm but she cried for a bit and then fussed... finally conked out and left bedroom by 9:10pm

Dreamfeed 10:30pm

I keep thinking I'm doign something wrong. Instead of shh pat... I had to resort to Cd music playing from the time I start the swaddle till she's out like a light. Mostly because there is a lot of noise outside (dogs barking intermttently etc) and the CD I found really helped block out those random noises. I pat her ONLY when she cries and stop as soon as she stops.

Any help is appreciated. It seems that EASY works great for naps at the moment... at least she takes them without me rocking her!! I just really wish bedtime would work. Maybe I'm expecting this to happen too soon?!

Thanks a bunch!

Wei

NiknLily · « **Reply #16 on:** August 22, 2006, 12:04:08 pm »

Hi Wei

This is getting a bit beyond me but here goes.

Is it possible that she still hasn't quite grasped the whole night and day thing as this needs to be taught all baby's run on a 24hr clock until we teach them otherwise. To help her do this we need very clear signals what is day and what is night. So I think this is why you should try to stick to the same wake up time and bed time every day. I have always tried to start the day at 7am, I know its early but you can go back to bed after A time. Even if they wake at 6 and feed try to get her back down till 7 then feed again, doesn't really matter if she doesn't take much as she is probably still full. This will over a couple of days help establish that she doesn't get any A time with mum before 7am.

The next time I wouldn't mess with is bed time, now I know you said that she is most alert in the evening, this is maybe because of 2 things, firstly her little body clock may be telling her its morning and time to play or secondly she could well be overtired my DD also textbook/angel (with hint of touchy when tired) appears to be wide awake in evening after her bath she is all revved up, even tho I use calming bubble bath, calming baby wash and chamomile shampoo! However I know that she is over tired like we get when we've gone past being tired and get a second wind. So I try to not gee her up, although we have fun in the bath and she plays with some toys after while I'm doing her nappy and getting her dressed for bed, Its quite low key stuff. If I let her play in this wide awake state for too long she then takes an age to settle. One thing that seems strange as you would think baby massage before bed would relax them, but you shouldn't do baby massage on a tired baby, so probably earlier in the day is best.

The other thing to help establish day from night is not letting them sleep for too long at a time during the day. Now I did say that I let my LO get the 1.5hr nap she should have regardless of how long it took to get her to sleep, thats fair enough, but you shouldn't let them sleep for long stretches during the day as this muddles the day night scenario.

So I would keep trying with the 3hr easy, always start your day at 7am, or as near as you can get, preferably not later than tho, and always try to get her to bed by 7/7.30 at night. And at this age I was still cluster feeding as well. to get max I could in during day.

The other thing I noticed is that you may be doing too much for the last A time of the day, I also made this mistake, when they wake from evening catnap its best to feed her give her a bath then do lullaby and then bed. This is because by the end of the day they have seen done and heard so much new stuff their little head is just ringing with it all, much like us if we've had a really big day our brain needs to process all this new stuff before we can fully rest.

And I do think you are quite right EASY for me also worked like a charm during the day but bedtime was an entirely different issue. If you read the posting's this seems to be a common issue.

So key points, stick to same wake up and bed times, don't let her sleep for longer than 1.5hrs at a time during the day, Don't do too much during last A time of day, at this age this A time is really just for feeding bathtime and bed.

Hope this is more help

Big hugs
Nik

Wei · « **Reply #17 on:** August 23, 2006, 19:41:42 pm »

Thanks Nik.

It seems some of the muddy sleep issues had to do with growth spurt but I do try to stay as close to the same time for bedtime and awake time as possible.

The thing that is never consistent is the nap times... sometimes 3 naps works out well for routine wise and it seems like on wonky days a fourth power nap has to come in so that I can get her to last up till the cluster feeds at 6 and 8pm... in bed by 8:30pm.

boy, this is tiring... I keep finding less Y time than I had before I started this EASY thing. At least she sleeps without me rocking her.. if it wasn't for that, I'd probably have given up long ago.

Wei

NiknLily · « **Reply #18 on:** August 24, 2006, 09:35:06 am »

Hi Wei
Well it sounds like your getting there so congratulations for that. Remember its not just baby's who take baby steps, its us new mums too. Don't be put off by having wobbly days, we where still getting lots of wobbly days up until about 12weeks then everyting started to really settle down. I found that I could tell it was going to be a wobbly day after the first E & A time and would say to myself "oh well so today isn't going to be so good but we'll try to get it right tomorrow". If I didn't tell myself this I would spend the whole day agitated that it didn't seem to be working. So remember to focus on the positive steps you've made, like her sleeping without being rocked, huge kudos for that one.
With regard to the 4th power nap this is normal at 6weeks, she should be getting 3 1.5hr naps and a catnap of about 45mins before the the first cluster feed at 6 to get her through the feed and bedtime routine so actually your wobbly days aren't wobbly at all but textbook in fact, the wobbly days are the ones with only 3 naps, however if she can get through the day and can settle at bedtime (within reasonable limits) without the last catnap then thats just fine too. So in fact I'd say you've pretty much cracked it, all that you need now is time for the routine to settle in and for you to both get comfortable with it, which will come in the next few weeks.
Don't forget that once the routine has started to settle thats when it pays off as you will start to get more and more in-tune with your DD and be able to read her cues which is probably one of the most important things that comes from the EASY routine is it teaches you how to read baby and anticipate her needs, and a baby who's needs are met is a happy baby who will thrive in all areas of her development. It's good for mum to know where you are in the day and what comes next and even better for baby, she will be most content when she truly knows that mums in charge and knows what she's doing.
Lastly, trust me you will get your Y time back, it just takes the back seat for a while.
Nik

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