My 9.5 month old is going through multiple changes right now. We've been all over the place with his routine. I feel like I'm adjusting every day to whatever is causing him to be out of sorts. He got two new teeth right around his 9 month birthday (thankfully that should be the end for a while...hopefully). Then separation anxiety hit pretty hard (that has also gotten better thankfully due to advice found on this forum and Tracy's book), plus the occasional doctor appointment at an inconvenient time of the day. I also just weaned him at 8.5 months from BF and EBM to formula. So, now, I really want to get him on track, but I don't know what kind of routine to put him on. Right now he seems to be transitioning from two naps a day to one nap. Then there's potty training which invites its own set of challenges. Fortunately, that is going pretty well, most days. He also just learned to crawl and pull up by himself which is a big exciting thing for him. This is also the time for trying finger foods, a feat he hasn't accomplished yet, but with 6 teeth, he is a pro at chewing, just not at actually putting the food in his mouth. So with all these things, I really feel overwhelmed with trying to put him on a routine.
The only common activities he has each day is at least one nap and a bedtime at 7:30. We have the same routine before each nap and bedtime and it works well for him for now (though some days he is pretty wound up and won't go to sleep straightaway, causing me to use PD method and patting. He's a baby on the go now and can't be bothered with settling down! ;-)) Anyway, his first (or sometimes only) nap a day is 3.5 to 4.5 hours from his initial wake up time. I decided a few days ago that if he woke up before 5am that I would give him a full bottle, but watered down, to encourage him to take in his calories during the day. It worked the other night when he slept from 7:30 to 6am, drank a bottle, went back to sleep until 9. Crazy. Should I have woken him up? He was all out of sorts that day, extra clingy, took one 2 hour nap from 1-3 and stayed up until bedtime at 7:30. Then last night woke up at midnight, had a watered down bottle, slept until 7, had a bottle, acted sleepy so I put him back down until he woke up on his own again 8:30. What should I do? Should I go back to waking him up at a certain time? I know he seems too young to transition to one nap a day but for the past month at least, he has been mostly taking 2-2.5 hour naps and refusing afternoon naps. Because his nap times are somewhat inconsistent, his eating times are also hard to predict.
I'm hoping someone can relate to what I'm going through and tell me what they recommend. I'm good to just roll with the punches (took some getting used to because I love a schedule), and it's hard to know when I should intervene.
Thanks in advance!
Today, our routine thus far:
WU and E 7am (3oz), back to sleep
WU 8:30am
E potty
E cereal
A Play and potty when necessary
E 11:30/45am 7oz formula
A play and potty
S 12:30 (went down easy)
He should sleep for at least 2 hours, if not, he'll be up long enough to take a short nap before bed.
Maybe things aren't as bad as they seem and maybe I'm doing what I should be doing, but with his different wake ups each morning and night and nap transitioning, I'm not sure what to do.
SORRY for the long post and THANK you again!