Thanks so much for the replies ladies,
First of all, I was kind of surprised at doc's response too, because I believe the milk is the most important thing right now and solids secondary. Anyway, as for cutting out the 1 pm bf, I have tried this every day for the last week and she still wants that feed even if she gets solids at 12 - 12:30. She never had an eat to sleep association and I certainly hope she isn't developping one, but she has just always had a bf b/w 1-1:30 and now it's just that her nap time follows directly after. She is definately changing her schedule on me too lately and I never know when she wants to nap.
Yes, if I mix the veggies with rice cereal she eats them, but is this a good idea to always do that? I read they should learn the 'real' taste, but at least she eats it this way.
Anyway, she obviously is getting what she needs because she sleeps through the night without a df. And the main meal we have trouble with is lunch and maybe she just isn't ready for 3 meals a day. As long as the pm bottle is 3:30 or so she will be hungry at 5:30. Also, she isn't taking in any huge amt of formula at one time so maybe she just prefers 2 - 120-150mL bottles instead of a larger 240 ml one. For now, it just seems that she can't go b/w 11 and 2 or 3 without extra milk.
AND THE GOOD NEWS... she finally just started to drink water from a sippy cup, so hopefully that helps with the transition too.
thanks again ladies. I appreciate the help.
Stephanie