help.due baby 2 wks and 2 yr old waking during the night :-(

[4 under 5]

girls im not sure whats going on with my 2 year old.

im due baby number 3 in 2 weeks and am already up and down to the toilet 3-4 times a night and could really do without him starting to wake up cryin etc in the middle of it all too

he shares a small room with his sister, whos 3. he was doing great for about 2 weeks, no waking at night at all. now last night he woke up cryin and screeming he wanted out of his cot.
stupidly and out of pure exhaustion i ended up taking him into our bed. (stupit i know) i didnt want him annoying my dd either so took the easy way out.

what do i do in this suituation?

[<Catherine>]

I have no experience, but could it be down to the new arrival due soon? I have heard it can really effect LOs. Perhaps a bit of SA?

Or perhaps 2yr molars?

Otherwise, do you want to post his routine and we can see if you need a tweak?

[4 under 5]

thanks for your reply catherine.
hes a real softie so maby the new arrival due is causing him a bit of stress :-( whats SA? he has all his teeth.
his routine is

8am wake
12.45 nap
1.45/2pm wake
7.30/8pm bed

thanks

[<Catherine>]

SA is separation anxiety, here's a bit of info: http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=62612.0 , http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=80822.0

I'll see if I can get some input here from anyone who's had experience with new arrivals and SA. We don't want to go messing around with is routine if that's not the problem.

[Khalam's Mama]

Have you considered this? http://babywhispererforums.com/index.php?topic=109770.0

[<Catherine>]

Is there a pattern to his wakings? Are they at the same time each night or anything? What happens when he wakes?

[4 under 5]

i dont know ladies. to be honest it dosent seem like SA because he gets so much extra cuddles etc.
its also mot nightmares as he just seems to be crying and sometimes says 'i dont want to be in this bed' i want mammys bed' or calls for his daddy.
he is going through the terrible twos alright and finds somethings hard to understand etc but im hopeful he will grow out of it. not easy when theirs a baby due soon :-(

catherine our posts crossed.
it does seem to be around the same time of night when it happens alright.  it stopped for two full weeks and then started up again. he didnt do it last night but tonight could be a different story. he was saying he didnt want to go into his bed when i put him down tonight but i showed him his micky mouse teddy and told him mickey was so tired too and really wanted to go to sleep in his bed with my ds. he only cried a little and that was that.

[*Ali*]

Hi, do you find yourself getting others to do stuff with him for you often? I found when I was getting to a stage of being heavily pg with ds2 I was just not physically able to carry him up the stairs etc. And also sometimes my mum or dh would watch him for me while I slept or just got a break. I always found after these episodes my ds1 would be more clingy and resisting going to bed at BT. He kept asking me to sit on his floor while he fell asleep which a never had to do before as he had been an independent sleepy for ages. I certainly never neglected him and am a stay at home mum so he did get plenty of time with me but he definitely noticed my waining ability to deal with him constantly. I'm just wondering if the same could be true for your ds.

We got a book called The New Baby  by someone Meyer which explains in story format about getting a little sister. I would recommend it as it helped my ds1 understand what was happening when ds2 arrived.

[Erin M]

My dd1 was 19 months old when dd2 was born and right around the time of the baby's arrival, her sleep was HORRID.  She was up every single night for 2+ hours and would not go back to sleep.  After dd2 arrived, it continued for about another 2 weeks, and then she was fine.  The only thing I could ever connect it with was the baby -- and everything was very positive for her, so I wouldn't blame yourself at all, it's just that I think they can sense change when they're so little and don't have the words to deal with it all during the day.  We just basically slept on her floor until it passed -- well, mainly dh slept on her floor as I was either very pregnant or nursing dd2. 

[<Catherine>]

From the experiences that the ladies have offered above I think you may need to ride this out until baby is here, unfortunately.

[4 under 5]

thanks ladies. i agree. maby its just he feels a little left out, even though hes far from being left out. he was fine again last night. weird. thanks very much ladies for all your input. really appreciate your help x

[Khalam's Mama]

Glad you got a good night. Make sure you give lots of positive attention about how well he did etc and hopefully long may it continue.

[4 under 5]

thanks i will do x